Consequences of not understanding implication

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I hate when people imply things. If its simple things I normally understand. If its more complex, like about relationships and stuff then I most likely won't understand. I had a boyfriend for 2 years on and off. We would get along really well and then fight and brake up. Over and over again, like some sort of stimming. He broke up with me last mouth. The reasons were, I obesses over dogs to much, I didn't understand his feelings and I hated being kissed. He also implied that I treated him more as a friend then a boyfreind. He never really told me any of this stuff, he would just imply it from time to time. I never understood it. We still text eachother sometimes, we have been talking alot of the recent brake up. He told me all of the stuff he implied and how he said it. I remeber him saying it all, I just never knew it had more meaning to it. What have been some of the consequences of you not understanding implications?

What do you mean by "implying"? Hinting? Can you give a concrete example? This is interesting to me because it sounds like something I'm really impaired at.

Unless somepony tells me flat out what they mean, I'm clueless. I suck at implied meanings/hints.

I miss a lot of hints. I also miss the importance something has for someone unless they explicitly tell me it is very important to them.

Eg if someone warns me in a joking manner, I won't notice it's a serious warning that I'll get dumped or punished if I continue doing said thing.

I've had people guilt-trip me badly because of this, reproaching long after the fact that I didn't heed their warnings.

Fortunately I've discovered AS so I don't feel guilty anymore. I used to be consumed by guilt for these things because my mother raised me to believe it was a sign of selfishness and meanness to humans. She never believed me that I don't do it on purpose and that I don't mean anyone any harm.

I hate hints.
If someone tries to drop hints to me, I just tell them to say straight out what they want to say and I'll promise not to kill them.
Argue, yes; kill, no.

I too struggle with implication, especially regarding relationships.
I think that 'people like us' sometimes need an explicit answer, this creates confusion when the person is uncomfortable giving a straight yes or no answer, which leaves me unsure of what they want me to do.
Then there is sarcasm, so straight answers arn't necessarily true. I once asked a lady if she was a lesbian, possibly I did this at a socially inappropriate moment. She said yes, so for the next few weeks, I assumed that she was, until at a party she told me that she was slightly disturbed by the question and had been sarcastic.

It's something that we lack. Welcome!