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MeloJag
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24 Sep 2012, 10:02 pm

How does one go about accepting themselves in a world full of NT's. I've been successful figuring out ways to be happy with myself and my life, but because of constant reminders of what I lack (mainly from being autistic) those good times don't last for long. What have you guys done to accept yourselves and your life the way it is.



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24 Sep 2012, 10:09 pm

Stop thinking yourself as different from the rest of humanity. Everyone is as weird as you are. They are just weird in different ways.



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24 Sep 2012, 10:16 pm

MeloJag wrote:
How does one go about accepting themselves in a world full of NT's. I've been successful figuring out ways to be happy with myself and my life, but because of constant reminders of what I lack (mainly from being autistic) those good times don't last for long. What have you guys done to accept yourselves and your life the way it is.


Well accept that your different. i did. and i rest so much easier.



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24 Sep 2012, 10:16 pm

I've decided to be myself once again for the first time since 1996 three years ago in the September of 2009. I've also started to to worry about myself and stop worrying about the mainstreamers around me. I'm not changing any more. I've found the real me and my happy place. If people don't like my clothes and my hair, they don't have to look at me. I grew a spine and decided to be myself.


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25 Sep 2012, 2:28 am

I've realized long ago that basically everybody can just turn around and walk away from me, but i am the only person who has to live with myself, therefore i think i have the right to be and live as i please as long as it doesn't violate any laws or other people's rights.



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25 Sep 2012, 2:37 am

MeloJag wrote:
How does one go about accepting themselves in a world full of NT's. I've been successful figuring out ways to be happy with myself and my life, but because of constant reminders of what I lack (mainly from being autistic) those good times don't last for long. What have you guys done to accept yourselves and your life the way it is.


What triggers this (in bold above) for you?



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25 Sep 2012, 2:43 am

For me, it is similar to the previous posters...

I remind myself that everyone is different. Even NTs - we all have our own sets of strengths and differences. Our set might be different from NTs and hence different from the majority of the World, but we are still the same in that everyone has a set.

Within that is the key point of strengths. Although it is beneficial to identify and manage our weaknesses, it is highly important to identify, enhance, and celebrate our strengths! Of which we have many :) Often, our strengths are an NTs weakness, so in some ways it can even out.

And of course, we need to stop caring what others think of us so much. We are our own person. One thing that even NTs like in another person is a sense of acceptance within oneself, a sense of peace, and a sense of confidence. The more we know about ourselves, the more we can create our own personal boundaries. I believe even an NT can like/respect a person with AS if that person is calm & confident within themselves.



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25 Sep 2012, 2:47 am

FlintsDoorknob wrote:
Stop thinking yourself as different from the rest of humanity. Everyone is as weird as you are. They are just weird in different ways.


Uh, it doesn't matter how weird they may be. We're the ones out of step with those other weirdos called "NTs." If we weren't, this website wouldn't exist. While you mean well, I think your post is off target and not very realistic.

analyser23 wrote:
I believe even an NT can like/respect a person with AS if that person is calm & confident within themselves.


An individual NT, yes. The collective NT world, no. Those other oddball NTs will still accept one another, collectively, while we'll always be on the outs. It's not so much NTs that bug me in the individual sense. It's having to live in a world dominated by them and their rejection of us. I'd be more than happy being myself if it didn't mean constantly being kept down by them. In fact, I think it's futile to be anyone other than myself, but let's not sugar coat things. We will always be out of step with those that run this world.



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25 Sep 2012, 2:50 am

again_with_this wrote:
Uh, it doesn't matter how weird they may be. We're the ones out of step with those other weirdos called "NTs." If we weren't, this website wouldn't exist. While you mean well, I think your post is off target and not very realistic.


I agree.


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25 Sep 2012, 2:57 am

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I've decided to be myself once again for the first time since 1996 three years ago in the September of 2009. I've also started to to worry about myself and stop worrying about the mainstreamers around me. I'm not changing any more. I've found the real me and my happy place. If people don't like my clothes and my hair, they don't have to look at me. I grew a spine and decided to be myself.


As I feel my above post gives the wrong impression, I'd refer to this post too. Cockney has the completely right idea.


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25 Sep 2012, 3:01 am

CrystalStars wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
I've decided to be myself once again for the first time since 1996 three years ago in the September of 2009. I've also started to to worry about myself and stop worrying about the mainstreamers around me. I'm not changing any more. I've found the real me and my happy place. If people don't like my clothes and my hair, they don't have to look at me. I grew a spine and decided to be myself.


As I feel my above post gives the wrong impression, I'd refer to this post too. Cockney has the completely right idea.


I'm curious, CockneyRebel, how has this attitude affected how people treat you?



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25 Sep 2012, 3:07 am

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As I feel my above post gives the wrong impression, I'd refer to this post too. Cockney has the completely right idea.


I liked your first post better.



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25 Sep 2012, 4:11 am

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CrystalStars wrote:
As I feel my above post gives the wrong impression, I'd refer to this post too. Cockney has the completely right idea.


I liked your first post better.

You made a valid point, but that doesn't mean the OP shouldn't try to find acceptance in who they are. You don't have to accept/be accepted by the outside world to accept yourself.


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25 Sep 2012, 6:27 am

I focus on what I'm good at, pretty much all day. I look at some of my symptoms as strengths. I don't worry too much about NT's. I sort of go off on rants about how they're all sheep, well, people on Facebook. But what I mean to do is encourage them to get into other interests. Or I just like to pick fights a lot. It's a short burst of mental stimulation.

I take my meds also that just feel like an add on to my screwy brain. It's not something that dumbs me down. Anyway, it makes me talk more to people and not care so much about what I say.

I don't hate my disorders or see them as having an advantage over other people (well, not always), I just learn to live with them. Each one is a part of me.


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25 Sep 2012, 6:47 am

Edit: oops.



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25 Sep 2012, 7:47 am

My point was that feeling "all negative" about your flaws won't change a thing. Everybody has them, and at least accepting that you're going to have some makes things easier. If an individual refuses to accept him/herself, then they can always aim to better themselves instead.


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