are there any women out there who appreciate direct guys
^^^this
I agree completely. I appreciate directness. Even if it's not what you want to hear. I'd rather that than think for months that a guy was interested in me and interested in a relationship only to find out that is not the case. I'd be devastated because I would have invested so much into the perceived relationship that I would feel empty.
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^^^this
I agree completely. I appreciate directness. Even if it's not what you want to hear. I'd rather that than think for months that a guy was interested in me and interested in a relationship only to find out that is not the case. I'd be devastated because I would have invested so much into the perceived relationship that I would feel empty.
i wish girls were not so damn paranoid
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I strongly prefer guys who are direct with me. Or at least I think I would prefer them, seeing as I've never been with a guy. I don't understand the games people play and I really don't want to hurt someone or get hurt in the process of trying to figure it all out. I am very frank and open in conversation and like people who are the same way.
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I like a guy who is direct but has to show some empathy and is not mean in what he says even if it may be true. So being direct and honest is good but at the same time paying compliments and being genuine in the sense of not beating about the bush is good. Where I don't like a guy being direct is when he gets a bit possessive or needy. Bit scary then.
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Have you heard of PUA?
Its based on different kinds of approaches(the funny approach, the I need help with x approach...) one of the most succesfull approaches is called the direct approach.
Whats the direct approach based on?
Plainly telling someone that you find them attractive: "Hey I was here talking to my friends about things and I noticed you so I just had to come over and say hi to you. Hi"...
Why is it more effective than other sorts of approaches: Because quite a lot of women can see that you dont really need help for your mothers birthday/helping out a friend thats in a weird relationship.... and this one is the most direct one.
That said you have to filter some of what you say in order to avoid scaring someone off:
My partner approached me the other day about when things started. I had put the day that we actually talked about things but I told her that if she wanted we could change it to the day she felt comfortable talking to me and so on.
Her reply was that it was fine and she didnt want to scare me away just yet.
Weve been honest with each other for a while and we have enjoyed this conversations but there are certain things that just need to remain unsaid for a while.
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dude, no
people are uncomfortable a lot
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That sort of direct?
Well... on the positive note, you called them ladies instead of referring to them as females. which always helps.
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^^^this
I agree completely. I appreciate directness. Even if it's not what you want to hear. I'd rather that than think for months that a guy was interested in me and interested in a relationship only to find out that is not the case. I'd be devastated because I would have invested so much into the perceived relationship that I would feel empty.
i wish girls were not so damn paranoid
Paranoid??? in what way??
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...but if they feel creeped out by someone's uncomfortable behaviour/vibe, they consider it to be "creepy". That's something you want to avoid at all costs, so knowing how to avoid it is a critical life lesson (and not just for dating!)
When do you think a woman considers that a man is being creepy?
I'm interested.
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...but if they feel creeped out by someone's uncomfortable behaviour/vibe, they consider it to be "creepy". That's something you want to avoid at all costs, so knowing how to avoid it is a critical life lesson (and not just for dating!)
Same to you.
I want to know what can be considered creepy on normal dates.
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Same to you.
I want to know what can be considered creepy on normal dates.
You're the girl - you tell me! Due to past responses, I can't help but somehow feel you're throwing this question at me in order to use my response as a weapon against me.
In case you're asking genuinely, if I knew a definite answer to the question I could easily avoid it! It seems to be a million un-spoken tiny elements ranging from how one wears their face, the kind of smile, body language... to the words spoken and the millions of tiny elements of exactly HOW those words were said.
Same to you.
I want to know what can be considered creepy on normal dates.
You're the girl - you tell me! Due to past responses, I can't help but somehow feel you're throwing this question at me in order to use my response as a weapon against me.
In case you're asking genuinely, if I knew a definite answer to the question I could easily avoid it! It seems to be a million un-spoken tiny elements ranging from how one wears their face, the kind of smile, body language... to the words spoken and the millions of tiny elements of exactly HOW those words were said.
I'm asking genuinely! I have no clue, I never had a "traditional" date so I never faced those subtle elements. This is why I asked. To me, creepyness has been always something way worst than those tiny elements you told.
Thanks for the answer .
Edit: I don't throw questions to use responses as weapons
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