On the spectrum, but facing no issues.

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Alright I`ve been coming to this site for a few years, and never seen the point in starting an account.

The facts are I have little to no problems with AS, I`m 25 well adjusted to most parts of life. I`ve had little issue`s with school, work, or serious issues with my social life.

For me this site is exceptionally negative, or at best stuck on things that I tend not to have issue with(learning disabilities, sensory issues, self sufficiency etc)

The reason I`m seeking out the community isn`t because of any direct problem I have. For me it`s more of embracing AS, without getting political about it.

I`ve met other AS people on other forums and they tend to agree as well that this site is more of a mental health clinic in alot of ways. There is also a problem of too much direct connection with autism which isn`t something we can relate too. Sure I understand that this is an important issue, but to compare a low functioning persons to someone that is for the most part fully functional is a bit of an insult. I do not face their issues, pretending I do is an insult to me and them as well.

So should there be a site for those who aren`t currently facing any issues, and simply want to share their positive experiences

Just to clarify, it`d be nice if there was positive development forum. With some basic rules to help progress discussion, and help give positive advice.

Positive discussions only, negative sentiments, complaints, or just plain old I can`t statements not allowed.

No talking about your personal life, or your main interest. To create an environment ripe for intercommunication.

I'm just wondering why you're diagnosed if it doesn't cause problems.

I wasn't, my brother has it too, I learned by watching my brother struggle to keep one step ahead of getting diagnosed for most of my life.


I'm not without problems, but it's mostly an a sense of loneliness

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In a way then, you do have issues. Most of what I identify with here is social as well. I don't have sensory meltdowns, but I struggle to relate to most people and have never had a love interest. Is it a severe problem? In some ways, yes.

This website is for discussing positive experiences as well as negative. You're welcome to start positive threads.

This is a very positive forum compared to others I've seen that seem entirely focused on medical diagnosis and are mostly populated by anxious parents.

People can be honest here - that's something that's rare on forums of any kind..and whilst not all problems will affect all people you pick and choose the threads that relate to you.

My issues are almost entirely social and not something that (now) causes me big problems. But without this forum I'd still be beating myself up about being unable to socialise instead of accepting who I am.

Maybe your lucky to have a good life with only little issues.

I had the best life when I was in my 20's early 30's. Travelled to Bali every year for 4 months, played football and had girlfriends, always surfing and going to parties. I had bullies but could shrug them off as the positive parts of my life mitigated their put downs

Then it all caught up with me..... parents died, body and functioning decreased with ageing.... post traumatic stress experiences... encephalitic infection... lost love......stopped travelling and sport and partying with friends[mainly due to bullying]

So things can change, unfortunately.
Or fortunately too, if one has the ability to make considerable changes, and turn ones life around

Its actually not very hard at all[on paper] but in reality is seldom achieved.

My guess is that if half of the membership lost weight, exercised hard and sweated every day, ate super well, etc etc....

a great improvement could occur

Possibly when your older you may have more negative things to identify with?

Are you a Netherlander? Stoek?

Yeah well my loneliness is in part because I'm just too dam picky. For a while I thought I was a narcissist for wanting to be around better people. I can make friends but I want to be around a certain kind of people, and I can't pinpoint what that means.

I've had to realize that part of it is, the AS, but I didn't want to admit it for a long time.

It's very common for family members of those with a diagnosable ASD to have some symptoms of such, albeit subclinical. They call it Broader Autism Phenotype.

Yeah well that's the thing my entire family has symptons of it. So in my family I'm completely normal, no one would ever question me being normal. To my family, I have anger issues.

I am in much the same boat. Worse still, I lowered my standards for a time and found that it just didn't work for me. I'm not a party person but I tried doing the nightclub scene with a friend of mine who was determined to bring me out of my shell. All that got me was looking for a quiet corner or room in the club where I wasn't so overwhelmed and could better reduce my environment down to a few people. Even then, I wound up alone all the time. I also tried going to parties thrown by friends of a friend. That didn't work either. I found I had nothing to talk about to those people, so I just started bringing my laptop with me and posting on forums instead of sitting there doing nothing. I know what I need but I also know it does not exist.

There are some people who by luck or intense therapy can overcome their disability and live normal lives. Usually these people are high functioning close to the division between AS and NT, and some just get lucky.

Understand though, the VAST majority do not go through life encountering no problems. The negativity you see is real, caused by real issues, and you should be thankful that you have not encountered it.

If you're not facing any "issues," then, by definition, you do not have AS.

Obviously I have it, when I say facing no issues, I mean nothing I want to discuss. Most of mine are in the past.

My main issue depending on how you view the problem is lack of desire to be around people that are so emotional.