Is it strange to be a little afraid of alcohol?

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I'm kinda scared of drinking alcohol and I'm not sure why. I'm fine when people like my older sister drinks, but she's 23-years-old. I'm not afraid of myself drinking, though I choose not to, since I'm only 17-years-old. Whenever I hear about other teenagers drinking, I start to feel very uncomfortable. I try not let it bother me, but sometimes I just can't help it. Last year, my older brother got in trouble for going to a Chinese restaurant with a group of friends and drank 4 beers. I was devastated! At the time, he was only a senior in high school and he didn't seem like the person who would do that kinda stuff. What made it worse, he and I hung out in the city the next day with two of our friends, and all they talked about was drinking and smoking. I felt disgusted, I wanted to go home so badly! There was a time where I hated alcohol and anyone who drank it, but I got over it, and accepted that everyone drinks. However, it stills bothers me to hear about other teenagers drinking alcohol and how much they love to. What I'm trying to figure out is, why does it upset me so much? Does anyone else get uncomfortable over drinking?

No, not strange at all.

Alcohol is a poison.

Poisons kill.

Alcohol just takes longer to kill than most other poisons.

I can relate sort of. I'm not really opposed to alcohol. As a matter of fact, I really enjoy the taste of alcohol, and like the effects. My father gave me sips of beer and champagne and stuff when I was like 3-4 years old through elementary school. I quite enjoy the taste of beer and wine, and even liquor sometimes. So there's not really much like, magical mystery about alcohol to me. That said, since I've been out of high school, I've not drank much at all. Even in high school, I didn't drink a lot, but I had more access to alcohol from friends and whatnot.

My problem with alcohol is like, I don't like taking any substance that makes me feel less in control, if that makes sense. Like, I LIKE alcohol, but I don't like drinking around friends and socially. Like, if I do have any alcohol socially, I only want like a single beer or something and that's it. The reason why is like, even though I feel "good," I also can't like, control the way I act around people as well. I'm so afraid of like, being off guard, if that makes sense. I want to keep my guard up around people. Alcohol removes my guard and makes me feel vulnerable. So, when I do drink (I've not had anything over a single drink since 2007) I drink alone.
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I think the reason is, alcohol removes people's "guards" and it's a bonding ritual, as you're all drinking and have your guards removed. Sorta like, I dunno, seeing others naked or something. I've had one drink among close friends, and I liked the experience a lot, but I simply don't want to open up to people really. So yeah. Maybe that's extremely schizoid thought process, but yeah.

I dunno, I see nothing wrong with alcohol by itself, just I don't like the fact it more or less makes me dumber, and removes my social inhibitions. I don't quite understand the fear of alcohol by itself, as I've been exposed to it, albeit in small amounts without drunkenness since I was a little kid. My father never got drunk and did douchey things, looking back he was probably nicer after his 3 or so beers on Saturday afternoon. High school did scare me a bit, with the drunken parties and dumbness, and I had neighbors living next to me who were in their 30s, and honestly adults are probably worse drunks than teenagers. People crying and arguing and stuff. So yeah, not scared of alcohol by itself, am scared of social/party drinking.

People drinking itself never makes me uncomfortable. Maybe the reason why it makes you uncomfortable when teens do it is because you have maybe heard about the stigma about it. teens who drink get out of control and they do stupid things like damage the property. I have heard of that happening at parties when a teen would throw one, kids bring alcohol and they drink and get out of control they leave over $10,000 damage to the home. Same thing happened with my brother when he threw one and someone brought alcohol and they wouldn't leave so he called the police. they left very little damage because my brother put a stop to it bu calling the police before it got worse. My cousin did the same too except she didn't call the police so my grandparents had tons of damage left to their home. So that is also why I hate underage drinking. I never hear good things about it so I can see why it would make you uncomfortable. I would probably be uncomfortable too if I had to be round teens who are drinking. I know even adults can drink and do stupid things. What makes me uncomfortable is if someone has had a drink and then they drive. I wouldn't even let my cousin drive my car until an after hour she has finished her beer since that's how long it takes for it to wear out of your system. She only had one beer thank goodness or I wouldn't have let her driven at all. Heck I wouldn't even want to ride with someone who has just had a beer and they are driving. No way. And I don't care if this makes me a wuss or a goody two shoe. I just want to be safe and not get in trouble with the law just because I was there. I know the dangers of it so why do it? Why even take the risk?

I never quite understood why it is almost all grown NT adults still think like highschool kids and can't wait to go get drunk with their friends!

I'm able to let my guards down without having to shut down my brain to do it, but still make sensible decisions instead of sleeping with the wrong person because you got hammered...

I don't find it "loosens me up" all that much...

I'm not sure it's the alcohol itself that is the problem, but I think there is a very prevalent drinking culture that seems self destructive. That the common image of drinking for to many people is to get smashed and blackout or something.

I think it is very interesting to read how 1000Knives was introduced to alcohol. I kind of wish there was a better way to discuss and introduce alcohol instead of just threatening underage drinkers with legal repercussions. I mean these days I really enjoy one or two good stout beers. I do not like getting drunk because to me the hangovers are just not worth it.

Also, just one time I did have to be driven home from the bar and the experience embarrassed the hell out of me. For about 6 months I flat out quit drinking to get some perspective on alcohol and "bar culture".

I think it's wise to be leery of something like that since it can cause huge problems if abused. I never understood the way some people treat teetotallers. If somebody doesn't want to drink alcohol, I'm not going to bother them about it.

Some people with AS are very rule oriented and a lot have black and white, all or nothing thinking. Your aversion to it could be a combination of a little bit of both being rule oriented and all or nothing thinking. I'm sure you were taught that kids shouldn't drink. That may have made you think that it's a terrible thing for anyone under 21 to drink. It may make you uncomfortable when people talk about it because it challanges all or nothing thinking on some level.

Look at the thought process like this.
Input: Underage drinking is wrong, you shouldn't do it.
Belief: All underage drinking is wrong, therefore bad.
Concept: Bad people do bad things.
Logic from black and white thinking: People who do bad things are bad.
Conclusion: Underage people who drink are bad

I'm not saying that you actually believe that conclusion, but maybe on some level your mind does. Because they are your friends, you know they aren't bad people but the black and white thinking can cause you subconsciously to doubt that they are good people.

That's just my theory, take it for what it's worth.

I don't have a problem with people drinking occasionally. I think that an arbitrary number for when it's ok to consume fermented beverages is ridiculous and should be left up to the individual or their parents. Of course it's not good to let a 12 year old get ripped, but a glass of wine or champagne on a special occasion is perfectly fine. So is a cold beer after working outside in the heat for 6 hours. Thats not the same thing as the concept that people have when they think "Underage Drinking!" They think of kids sitting on their cars out somewhere in a deserted parking lot, or in somebodys basement when their parents aren't home and drinking so much that they can hardly stand up, and then driving and killing somebody in a wreck, or that the one taste of alcohol is so dangerous that if it passes your lips when you are under 21 you will immediately become an alcoholic and your grades will plummet, you'll drop out of school, go to juvie, rob liqour stores, etc.

My experience is that the more parents push the anti alcohol agenda and treat it like "the devil's coffee" the more the kid wants to try it and drink it. Yes, it's fun to drink with friends. Yes, a drink can be relaxing. They try alcohol and see that their parents were wrong about it and then totally disregard everything their parents have told them is so dangerous like that. Thats the danger or it. Mom and dad say that alcohol is terrible, kid finds out it's not, kid doesn't believe anymore that the rest of what mom and dad said is dangerous, really is.

I've always been fine with my older kids having something to drink if they wanted it, as long as they didn't go anywhere. If you want to drink, drink at home. Thats not to say I go out and buy them booze all the time, cause I don't. My kids don't drink much anyway. Lots of their friends do though. Friends whose parents forbid it from the house, etc. Even kids whose parents drink but have forbidden them to, drink way more than they should. My kids actually recognize it when friends do that. My oldest started drinking way too much when he moved in with his baby mama, but he knew better, so I couldn't take that blame.

I wouldn't let anybody under about 14 or 15 have alcohol, but when I get a bottle of wine, my daughters may get a glass or two if they want one, which is fine with me. Thats really all they get too, a glass or two. They don't get it every time I get a bottle of wine either, which happens three or four times a month. My younger one may get a glass every few months, and my older one maybe twice a month. She and her fiance (he's over 21) have liqour that they buy for serving company or occasionally having a drink, down in their room in their little bar area with the pretty glassware and decanters. They aren't big drinkers at all. My younger son drinks so rarely that it's an event when he decides to have something we all comment and joke. He may have a beer once or twice a summer, and very, very rarely will he take one single mixed drink. He just doesn't care for it.

I, on the other hand, was taught to never touch it until I was 19 (drinking age then). Of course I immediately got my hands on some money when I got my car and got somebody to get me a bottle of Jack Daniels and me and my friends rode around in my car drinking it in the afternoons. Dangerous behavior, that. It's much saner to say "It's fine if you drink, just don't make a habit of it and do not leave this house once you drink the first one". My oldest son has had parties before where he served alcohol. Many of his friends were over 21. He was 18, 19, something like that. He had his parties in his room (it's the same little apartment that has it's own entrance and lots of privacy that my daughter and her fiance now have) and we told him that we do not want to see anybody up here in the main part of the house drunk, and we took everybody's keys when they got there. My husband would take them from them and wouldn't let them have them back until the next morning if they were drinking. Sober people could have theirs. However, kids stayed at our house overnight a lot anyway, so everybody had a place to sleep.

Thats my two cents on it.

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I seem to be afraid of alcohol. I have never got really drunk before. I've been very mildly drunk, but that's just at the point where I kept rocking very slightly when I was standing up, but I still had 100 percent consciousness. But like I say, I haven't got really drunk before. Everybody else who I know has, even those that are serious, meek people who I would have never thought would let themselves get that drunk.

Sometimes I feel I'm the only one who has never got drunk out of my head before, because I know that everybody tries it at least once. Well, I have met people who haven't got drunk at all in their lives, but they are only very few people. Otherwise, 99 percent of all the people that I have met in my life have gotten drunk at least once.

I tend to stay away from alcohol. I'm just so scared of getting drunk. I have a phobia of vomiting, so that's one reason why I don't drink. Another reason why I don't drink is because I'm scared of how I will be. My mum said that everybody's different when they're drunk; some get aggressive, others get silly, others go all weird, others act childish, and some go all quiet and serious (yes, my dad does when he's drunk). My brother gets aggressive when he's drunk. And I'm scared I might become aggressive if I ever got drunk, and I might do crazy things in the street and end up getting arrested by the police or something, being so I do have a lot of anger in me anyways. Well, I'm not an aggressive person, but I do have outbursts which involve a lot of angry behaviour, so I don't really want to let myself loose by drinking myself stupid. That is why I'm afraid of touching alcohol (a little bit is fine).

No im not afraid but Im careful, because become addicted to it is one of the worst things that can happen.
its not that strange thus

No I don't think its strange, there's nothing wrong with 1 or 2 drinks with your meal but to get so drunk you end up throwing up in the street like some of the kids that go out at night do then there's something wrong.
There's been a big issue here in Australia about people drinking alcohol with energy drinks a dangerous combination.

I remember when I went out with some people at work one night I was only 17 at the time some teenagers gave me a can of UDL and I didn't know it was alcoholic one of the other ladies stopped them from giving me another one as they were looking out for me as I was the youngest one there at the time.