Happy naïve aspies...

Post Reply New Topic

Not that being naïve is anything negative, if one is happy... but sometimes (not *that* often, actually - most are just introversively obsessive) I notice these happy-go-lucky people. Okay, I only have one in mind right now, but he fits this stereotype perfectly: smiles like an anthropomorphized carrot when engaged and talks so joyfully about his interests. Never met his family... but, surely, one can accurately guess their level of functionality if a person ends up like that? (Unless they are, of course, constantly high. But this guy is just naturally so.)

To say the least, I wish I was like him... I really, really wouldn't mind appearing so blissfully unaware if only I could be so positive... but, these days, there's barely any people IRL for me to engage with, let alone everything else being so perfectly in place... seemingly.

Now this *may* correlate to autistics on the other side of the spectrum who seem to smile a lot too (although most I observe appear to be wrecked with nerves and keep pacing to and fro), but for a coherently intelligent person to be so happy - I guess I envy him!

smiling...carrots?

I know the type you mean. I don't think naive always equal happy though. I used to be terribly naive - got myself into a lot of difficulties, and I learned slowly. I wasn't happy at that time though. Though I've got even less happy as I've overcome my naive views. I used to believe I was capable of far more of a normal life, thought I could be like other people, and had to come to accept the reality was different from that.

I'm completely the opposite now. There would be benefits to being naive - but I take some comfort in the fact that my understanding is now rational and based on reality. I avoid making social errors or overestimating my abilities due to naivety of how the world works and its hard realities. Perhaps there's some benefits for you?

I was a happy naive aspie
Till very recently
Now I'm a less than happy
Less than naive aspie
I was happier before!

Gaining knowledge is like
collecting sticks on ones back

Understanding the mind
of the bastard
of the b***h
Is a place
I only wish to visit
temporarily
Begone ugly souls

Fuuu.....

I've been told I constantly smile. And been told I ramble on to people about their interests. As far as my functioning level, I got no idea. One thing I do know is when I called for an ASD Support Group in my area, they wanted me to meet with an individual doctor first, and then the doctor just from like a 5 minute phone call with me was like "Yeah, he's got Aspergers" to my mother without even seeing me.

like a dick head?

As a child I was very naive and happy. As a teenager my naivety made me the butt of teasing and bullying and I became UNhappy very quickly. I have been working through my emotional issues since then, and I think I am finally emerging into my state of happy naivety again. That's where I want to be - I can't seem to do anything about the naivety, so I'm working on the happy!

I have never felt engaged with the world very much - I don't like to listen to the news or current events, I don't like popular culture (music, films, television), I'd rather stay in my own little world and draw and read books. Being an adult and having to earn a living has proved to be a hindrance to that for a while, but I'm working on a way I can earn money from doing what I do best, which will mean I can continue being happy and naive for as long as I like.

I'm quite happy being this way - or at least I would be if there were people around me who would be supportive of it and stop trying to change me!

I think it's meant as somebody who gets angry or annoyed over what happens, not a dickhead...

As for the current topic, I think I am quite naive. Less naive than I was in the past. That made me less happy. So my current life mission is to find a way to be happy, while not being that naive.

_________________
Probably 75% Aspie, 25% NT... and 100% ADHD

Aspie-quiz results:
Aspie score: 138 of 200 / NT score: 78 of 200 => Very likely an Aspie.

Generally, I find human emotions to be an expression of a cognitive bias, which might sound revolting to some, but it is the way I see it.
I'd prefer to have no strong emotion and be neutral. Unfortunately, I'm a very emotive person and I'm easily delighted or can be upset easily.

I noticed that each time someones smiles at me, I almost involuntary smile back. I feel weird when such thing happen because I realise that many times, I have no reason to do it. It feels like my body is trolling me. I wish that I would have been more autistic concerning this aspect. I admire detached people.

As I have had a lot of adversity, I felt 'seasoned'. It is humbling, as what happened to me, when someone half your age calls you naive. He wasn't being mean, as far as I could tell. It was an observation, which is all the more humbling.