I have recently met a woman with Asperger's......
I have recently met a woman with Asperger's & would like to be someone she feels comfortable with. I would greatly appreciate any help with a basic rundown of what she lives with in her daily life & an explanation of the do's & don'ts that will help me be someone she can feel comfortable around & how I should behave & what to possibly expect in the formative stages of our friendship. I do not have autism & have never, to the best of my knowledge, met someone who has Asperger's. The one thing I know is that routine is VITAL to her & those are the kinds of things I need to know, eg, give her plenty of time to prepare for my visit & never drop in unannounced etc. I would greatly appreciate any info, suggestions etc. so I can come into her life peacefully & in a way that respects her needs. Please help educate me, if you can
You are right, it is really important that you prepare her for any possible changes. I am on the spectrum. My mind is like a computer, anything new has to be reprogammed. for example, when my mom says to do the dishes a certain way, and later wants it done differently, she cannot just tell me how to do it different, she has to show me as if I have never done dishes. So when making plans with her that in mind. Also, I can only speak for me but, I cannot focus being in places with lots of people, colors, shapes, sounds, and sizes. When I go to a building with colored walls, and pictures, and colored trim, and tables, and lights, I feel like chaos in my head. I get frustrated easier. For you, there may not be much going on in the room, but you do not think about everyones shoes,, their color and size, the peoples height, the walls and how come they painted them that color, the possible structure of the building, ect. I subconsciously take in every detail of every room I enter. If there is too much to take in, I get exhausted.
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