Getting depressed over extremely specific things.

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This is about special interests, I guess.

Sometimes I get really upset over my special interest, but I can't "talk it over" with anybody because it's so specific and unless they happen to do some research on my special interest and plan an equally specific response, they won't be able to make me feel better.

Can anyone relate? How do you deal with it?

Heck yes. This might not even be relevant to what you're saying (what is your special interest?) but when a specific severe weather event is predicted but fails to materialize, I'm usually incredibly sullen/gloomy and depressed for a few days to weeks depending on how epic it might have been. Anyone without an exemplary knowledge in atmospheric sciences had best not even try to talk to me about it ('winter's not over!' 'maybe it'll be windier tonight' etc.) I deal with it by venting endlessly on meteorology groups that consist of like-minded individuals. I feel like, if other people share my displeasure, I'm apt to recover more quickly. Things are a bit better now that I'm educated enough to predict the weather and access all of the technology that professionals and experts have at their disposal...I'm typically not as irritated if it's my own forecast that goes awry.

I'm not sure if this is a similar thing, but I'm depressed over my lack of a special interest. My interests have all revolved around fictional characters and I want my next special interest to revolve around fictional characters too. Everyone I talk to says that they can't help me because it's my brain and I have to figure out what makes me happy. The only problem is, it feels like I have tried everything and nothing brings me happiness anymore; nothing "clicks" with me. I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm driving myself crazy over it.

I can completely relate to this. I get depressed (and anxious) over very specific things. It is a double-edged sword, because I know exactly what would make me feel better (temporarily), but it takes that specific thing to get over it.

This is why over the years I've been unable to connect to most mainstream self-help... Usually the stuff that helps others contain extreme generalities:

"You win some, you lose some."

"You can succeed."

"Distract yourself."

"Enjoy the moment."

Or worse, trying to explain the [very specific thing] one is depressed about may result in misunderstanding. For example, being depressed about something very specific related to a special interest may lead to a well-meaning person discussing the special interest IN GENERAL when the worry or depression may be related to one very specific branch of it.

Or it can be so convoluted and hard to explain. People may hear "key words" that make the worry appear to be about something slightly different than what it actually is. Or may address the subject broadly rather than zoom in on what is specifically bothering us.

Oh yes, it's happening right now. I am semi-losing my special interest, I've harped on about it enough here so I'm not going to go into it all again, but what I can say is it is not really doing me any good. I don't want to stop the special interest though because I love having this particular special interest, but at the same time it is inviting more stress into my life. I'm already on edge in case something comes along where I will become unable to ''feed'' my special interest, and I'm afraid it will die away after a while and my brain just won't want to learn more information about it any more. I love writing stories about my special interest, but as soon as it stops, the interest will fade away after about 9 months to a year, and writing stories about it will just become boring and meaningless. This is what I'm afraid of happening.