Can I get an OKCupid account review, please?

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I just get so little response on my OK Cupid account, I may be overlooking a critical flaw somewhere... I wouldn't mind a review (Salome has helped some and I appreciate that!)

My username is SeeThreePeeOh. >> LINK HERE <<
I suppose I can copy & paste almost everything if I have to... like if you refuse to go on the OKCupid site, etc.

Appreciate all feedback, especially constructive criticism. Thanks.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/SeeThree ... r_indirect

Seems to work^

Ill agree with alex spot on. Drop the first two lines, and redo the pics. Maybe not crop out your kids completely from the pics (considering, no disrespect, your age) and possibly drop the other overly joyfull pics for a more realistic having fun. Maybe you have some pics doing sports or something fun like that. The written part besides the first two lines is pretty good.

I agree w/ the above posts. Also, maybe answer more questions. It'll fill out your "personality" more.

The kids are _adorable_. When you mention how important they are to you, it's super genuine and sweet. I think you kit just the right note there. Maybe include pics of them without crops. I also like the goofy picture - it makes you look fun.

You mention a lot of stuff you don't like, but not a lot of stuff you do. Instead of saying "No doormats" say "I want someone confident in herself". Instead of asking that people not be manipulative, ask that they be frank, forthright, or honest to a fault.

The "I love being the kind of person I am" thing is very affirming, but you need to give a sense of who you are. Are you shy? Serious? Focused?

What are you volunteering for? Say that. Say what you do for them. It's the kind of fact that builds a picture of you in someone's mind.

The only test you've taken is the sociopath test. THAT IS ALL OF THE RED FLAGS. TAKE MORE TESTS. IF POSSIBLE, DELETE THAT TEST.

I think you can add more of yourself on there. You are a caring, compassionate, articulate, intelligent man. Do you know how rare that is?

Oh, and tall with great teeth.

Go get 'em...

Might have to finish tomorrow... it's late.

Thanks again for everyone's advice! Let's hear some more ladies chime in - after all, it's someone like you I'm after!

Looks ok to me.

Much of your rhetoric has an unusual bounce and pentameter, could because I'm half a world away and a different culture....

I think this makes your autism/earnestness show thru to a perceptive female reader.

Some has possible double meaning, seeding doubt, and is scattered, and much also heralds your strengths, to too much of a degree, possibly slightly conceited. But seeing as your an aspie....

Possibly a bit too strong, like laying too many key cards on the table too soon. Also speak more about the future her

I have Virgo as an ascendant, which makes me hypercritical, sorry

ps I would mention the aspie thingy

The question I have for you is what type of woman are you looking for? You really don't mention that in your profile.

I would definitely change your screen name. It doesn't say anything about you other than you're a Star Wars fanatic, unless that's the type of women you're trying to attract. Unfortunately, many of such women do not exist. I would say the same thing about the opening paragraph. It's great that you like Star Wars and all. I'm probably just as obsessed with it as you are (you should see my posts in the Television and Film forum), but depending on what type of women you're trying to attract, it may not be the best idea to have that as your opener especially.

Also, I would change the whole "I need to get back into music again" because that's a passive statement. Instead, focus strongly on your musical accomplishments.

I would also take out the parts about discussion and conversation. When you're meeting women online, that should go without saying.

Overall, just tailor your profile to the type of women you're trying to attract. I assume since you're a single parent that you're looking for a woman who also has kids?

The pictures are overall good. You chose a good first picture, but I would probably take out the one where you're wearing a hat.

I personally don't think you should have photos of your children on the profile

If I was looking at OKCupid profiles and I saw yours, this is how my thought processes would run
and apologies beforehand for anything you might think harsh - I will explain my reasoning fully though:-

1. Your photos - All look fine to me but they differ a lot. In the first you look the best, as younger, slimmer and you seem to have done your hair in a more trendy style. To be honest, after you had your profile photo on WP as one of the older photos for a while, when you switched it to the younger one, I did a double-take as I didn't even think it was still you at first!
You seemed like two completely different people, in the character you were giving off as well as how you looked.

Yes it's very true that we all want to look our best and use our best photos on dating sites but the main aspect of this is 'Do I still look sufficiently like this photo in real life?' So perhaps don't use this photo as your main one; use an up to date one as the main one and have them in age descending order (so the person looking at your profile sees the most up to date one first and youngest one last) and make it clear which year each photo was taken in.

2. Having photos with your children on your profile - My first thought on seeing children in a person's profile photos would be 'I'm no good with children/not keen on them so wouldn't want to get involved in trying to play 'happy families' when I know for a fact it wouldn't work as I'm far too introvert/anti-social/selfish (delete as appropriate lol)

So obviously, if you put up photos of yourself with your children, you are far more likely to attract other family/child orientated people than single people who've not had children and don't want them. And of course people with children come with the baggage of the other parent potentially always being in the background and if relations between the parents aren't good or deteriorate, you will probably get dragged into taking sides, which can be a major hassle as it's not even your battle!

3. Having photos of any kind of social or celebratory event e.g a pool party on your profile
- This would alienate me right off the bat as I don't go to parties, don't usually like them and don't usually relate to loud, outgoing party-goer types. So if you are looking to attract other social party-goer types the photo is fine but if you want quieter, introvert types, don't show yourself at parties as it will stress them out just to look at such photos! lol

4. The written content - A geeky type of person with a similar sense of humour would like it a lot but an NT would probably not even get your Star Wars references and even if they did would probably not relate to the sentiment they are conveying.

So if you're looking for another aspie I'd say your profile is ok but if looking to widen the field to NT women, it's not

But of course, we need to know what type of woman you are looking for in the first place in order to work out if your profile is targeting your 'market' appropriately

I would have more recent photos altogether so there isn't such a contrast between them - I mistaked you for someone much younger too (Sorry!).

I think the photos should show you looking as much like you realistically do as possible, but obviously not compromising too much. Just use different angles and a mirror, and take lots of them. But err, don't post all of them..

what does seethreepeeoh mean? Also it says that your reply often which makes you look desperate. I always avoid girls who reply often.