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22 Dec 2012, 11:38 am

Growing up I was told I looked stoned almost every day, even when I had no idea what it meant. Has anyone else been told this?
Well I was either told I looked stoned or angry but I was completely fine.
I also overhear people say I have evil eyes, but I'm almost never angry. Its all very vexing to me.



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22 Dec 2012, 11:54 am

Well, a lot of Aspies squint in bright light, trying to shield their sensory sensitivity, which can look like the half-lidded eyes of a stoner. Many also have a frowny default facial expression, or draw their eyebrows together when they're concentrating on their thoughts in a way that looks like anger. Neurotypical people rely a lot on facial expressions to deduce the internal state of other people, but those on the spectrum don't always exhibit facial expressions that are consonant with that internal state.



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22 Dec 2012, 12:07 pm

People seem to interpret me as being grumpy or tired when I'm feeling fine. People with AS must be sending wrong signals to other people. I think that's one of our difficulties.



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22 Dec 2012, 12:17 pm

I had one person randomly tell me I looked stoned. This was first face-to-face I ever had with this classmate. Last time I checked, Ritalin in its forms doesn't make one look stoned. I could be wrong, though.

I also seem to have a constant frowny face going on too.



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22 Dec 2012, 12:49 pm

When I was in elementary school and for the first part of high school, people frequently said I looked stoned (not angry, though). They were pretty persistent about it, too. As far as I can tell it was because I didn't make eye contact much and often looked down or off to the side, or stared at nothing while I was thinking about something. It's less of a problem now.



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22 Dec 2012, 12:52 pm

Kids used to tell me to smile back in high school and at one of my old jobs, I kept being asked by my boss what is wrong. :roll:

Now I must be doing something right because I rarely get now "What's wrong?"


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22 Dec 2012, 2:03 pm

I have been told that, it has led to getting stoned with people you would never expect to smoke



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22 Dec 2012, 2:33 pm

I actually am glad I don't hear this often.



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22 Dec 2012, 3:11 pm

People are always thinking that I'm angry, or being sarcastic, when I don't mean to give that impression. It's the facial expression.
When I have what I think is a neutral, relaxed expression, people think I'm scowling. I've had difficulty holding jobs because of this.



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22 Dec 2012, 3:20 pm

I have the same problem and people have the preception I am always angrey when I'm not. Away from where I live I am always laughing and happy it depends as well on how comfortable I am where I am at the time and the surroundings.



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22 Dec 2012, 3:48 pm

People think I'm angry all the time when I'm just thinking (and even feeling happy while doing so).



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22 Dec 2012, 4:09 pm

I am Autistic and Asian, so I usually look stoned, angry, and/or sad, unless I try not to. Sometimes I'll get asked "Hey are you alright?" while I actually do feel good and so I say "Huh, Yeah, I feel great!".


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22 Dec 2012, 8:28 pm

arielhawksquill wrote:
Well, a lot of Aspies squint in bright light


I did not know that. People have often said to me that I squint or that I look half-asleep when I'm outside, but I haven't made this connection. Perhaps I should get sunglasses or something?



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23 Dec 2012, 1:36 am

I get the whole "You look mad--you need to smile more!" all the time, and it is so incredibly annoying. Just because I don't smile and act all perky 24/7/365 doesn't mean I'm angry at the world. I just don't feel the need to smile unless there's something to smile about.



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23 Dec 2012, 2:36 am

I don't recall ever being falsely accused of being stoned, but I did get told I looked angry or sad on several occasions, and I was feeling neither emotion. I was also encouraged to "smile" on more than one occasion. :roll:



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23 Dec 2012, 10:46 am

trollcatman wrote:
arielhawksquill wrote:
Well, a lot of Aspies squint in bright light


I did not know that. People have often said to me that I squint or that I look half-asleep when I'm outside, but I haven't made this connection. Perhaps I should get sunglasses or something?


I never leave the house without them.