Noah_Antrim_Lottick wrote:
Another stressful situation happened tonight (Dec 31/Jan 1). Even here on the Net, where we can meet and be anonymous and not be ashamed, it is painful to talk about. (I got away safely, thank goodness.)
Talking with someone who understands me is good, but those people are not always available. When you have a difficult situation, what do you do (more than one thing is possible) IMMEDIATELY after to calm down? How long do you do this activity?
(I am referring to someplace like a restaurant, church, shopping, someplace where you do not have to be. I am not talking about work, school, etc. where you are required to be there.)
What do you do immediately after a stressful incident like this? Please do let me know. I would be most grateful for your suggestions.
If i have a meltdown by myself i will usually (depending on the severity of incident) scream, potentially swing at things and break them, hit myself in the head, until i break myself down to stimming in my bed.
My NT gf has become a big help since i met her 5 years ago. I don't hit myself anymore and don't break as many things. There had been times she had to physically restrain me years back.
One incident happened in a car at night, we were headed home and the a$$h@le in a van in the left lane hit a deer. I flipped out so badly that my gf had to pull over the car, hold me inside the car for 15 mins, while i am hysterical screaming, crying and threatening profanities about the other driver in the van. The deer was able to get up and get away, yet it got hurt and seeing it traumatized me.
My NT gf does her hardest to keep me away from situations such as animals being hurt or even feline or canines who have been murdered by cars.
As for public places, i don't go to any that are really crowded. If we have to go to a Walmart i act as if i am panicked (i am) and just want to get what we need to and go. Public places or places with people i can always run outside away from them and that is what i would do if i had a really bad situation.
Sometimes i feel that talking about things is futile, as my NT has deal with it all by now and sometimes it just seems she doesn't care. She says she does yet i can't read her face or mind.
So i keep things to myself and sometimes try and distract myself with researching, art, riding my bike. It only works for so long.