Is my cousin gay or bi?

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Lately she's been saying homosexual things like she watched lesbian porn when she was 12.
She's just been showing signs of homosexuality like being playful with other girls e.t.c. I also read into some body language of attraction and apparently when some lesbians are attracted to a girl, they bite their bottom lip with a lusty look. She did that to me when she was being kinda flirty with me.

I think she's being questioning her sexuality. She said she thought she was a lesbian twice to me. I asked her if she was gay and this was our convo:

Me:Are you gay or bi??
Her:bi
Me:I wont tell anyone if you are im being serious fyi
Her:well seeing as u only gave me really one choice cus if im gay that means i like vaginas but if im bi i have more of a selection
Me:lol im being serious
Her:i dunno lol
Me:Cause you said once that you thought you were a lesbian??
Her:if i fall inlove with a guy i fall inlove with a guy! if i fall inlove with a girl i fall inlove with a girl!ive neveer been lesbian
Me:Then what were you saying about this phase?
Her:DUDE IM NOT GAY

That sounds more like she is what we would describe as bisexual, but sexuality is fluid and changeable. It is not necessarily fixed.

Just because you find the same gender good looking does not make you gay. I see some guys and think they are beyond cute and I see some girls on the cover of a mag and think "eh"

She could be trying to figure her self out but not ready for a label.

Yeah, she's bi. No doubt.

You guys ever...y'know?

A lot of times, when bisexual people start having sexualities, they will be attracted to one sex or gender before they get attracted to the other ones. Maybe she realized she was attracted to females first, but then later she realized she was attracted to males as well. That's what happened with me. Now, she knows she's bisexual, but maybe before when she told you she might be lesbian she hadn't gotten attracted to males yet. It took me a while to realize I was attracted to males as well because most males are so ugly.