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zeldapsychology
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15 Jan 2013, 9:15 pm

My 13 yr. old sister does. I'm 26 nearly 27 and still skip around and snap my fingers being silly like a child. I said I didn't want to grow up she said then I should have a condition that makes me that way. I read of the condition (forgot the name) where 2 40 yr. old men acted liked they were 5. They were mentally retarded and just pointed at things. (No offense to AS or Autism you guys) and this was ANOTHER disorder NOT! Autism related. They were fine 40 something year old men then started changing and act like they are 5 and 2 now. (Some Yahoo! article can't find it now.)


The fact my sister would mention I should be like that hurts. I understand with Asperger's we are emotionally immature but is that so wrong? I'm tired of people saying I should act my age! :-(



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15 Jan 2013, 9:36 pm

I don't really think it's wrong but maybe she is annoyed by certain things you do?
Or maybe it's another case of not realizing how words can hurt someone (I doubt this was supposed to be a joke). You should try to explain your sister that this was an offending statement and ask her if some of the things you do bother her.

In my case it's usually vice versa:
I should be less serious, they say.
I should go out and do party, they say.

I'm not interested in the latter one and have troubles changing the first one because I don't think I'm all that serious as they say. Maybe they just don't understand my humour or think so because I don't laugh at their jokes? Wouldn't surprise me, usually people who don't know me well say that. :lol:


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15 Jan 2013, 10:00 pm

I have been told to "grow up" off and on for years. I just don't give a crap about it any more. I am different. I think weird and I love myself. Screw you world!



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15 Jan 2013, 10:53 pm

Your sister is at a very sensitive age. My daughter is 13, too. At this age they are not kids anymore but they are not grown up either, so they react strongly to anything that reminds them they are still children. I imagine your sister feels embarrased of the way you act. Just give her space and try not to act childish around her, specially when you are in public. She will eventually stop acting like that. They are very hurtful at this age.



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15 Jan 2013, 11:01 pm

Thanks Ilka. I tend to act "silly" and jump around in public. I get super excited going to Disney and jumped around like a small child last year when I went. Some lady looked at me and smiled and I didn't even notice. I'll try not to act that way in public. 13 is a tough age she's rude alot and very defensive.



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15 Jan 2013, 11:45 pm

This has been a big issue with me and my Dad/step mom for ever, I like to play alot and entertain my youthulness and find enjoyment in child like entertainment. They find my love (and natural way of thinking) of maintaining my innosence very annoying.

Then again on some topics they tell me i'm acting to old and cynical like grandpa.

I think they just wish they had the guts to do it.



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16 Jan 2013, 12:18 am

I was actually thinking of this song the other day, everyone should try to live by its words

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16 Jan 2013, 1:20 am

Mirror21 wrote:
I have been told to "grow up" off and on for years. I just don't give a crap about it any more. I am different. I think weird and I love myself. Screw you world!


This is how it's been for me also.



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16 Jan 2013, 2:38 am

I always felt since I was a teenager that my family expected me to act my age. I'm able to be really mature (perhaps too mature) in public, but I get questions from my older sister on why I still wear t-shirts, watch cartoons, and insinuate that I'm not looking for a job period and whatever stress I feel when I imagine seeing both going to school and having a job is childish and that I have to deal with it. Nevermind the fact that I've been looking since I became old enough and that, last semester, I was essentially at school constantly in the second half because I needed to pull my grades up, since art school can be very subjective with grades.



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16 Jan 2013, 2:55 am

Mirror21 wrote:
I have been told to "grow up" off and on for years. I just don't give a crap about it any more. I am different. I think weird and I love myself. Screw you world!


Amen!

For me, it happened mostly during the high school period. Then, luckily, it stopped. In fact, some people I met in college were a lot more childish than me. I was okay with that.


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16 Jan 2013, 10:10 am

I don't think anyone really minds my immaturity, because I try not to pair it with irresponsibility.



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16 Jan 2013, 3:00 pm

I've been told both explicitly and implicitly to "act my age" over the course of my lifetime. Apparently no one ever told the folks I heard it from that they do not have the right to tailor another human being to their expectations.

I'm sure my stepmother wishes I acted more my age....take my stuffed animals, for example. Before she and my dad got married when I was 12 (and was more like a "visitor" or a "permanent houseguest" than a stepmother) she actually seemed to LIKE my plushie friends. She was okay with my taking one everywhere I went, she talked to them when I prompted her to, she tucked all of us in (me and my plushies) at night, and once she even took me to the Disney Store to pick out a Disney plushie.

As I got older, she seemed to actually hate my plushies, would drop hints that I needed to get rid of certain ones, and got mad at me when I bought/rescued new ones. I never understood that; I mean, as a teenager, there were much worse things I could have been buying, including but not limited to drugs, alcohol, porn, etc (now that I think about it, I missed sooo many opp'ys to play the "I could have been worse" card lol). Now that I'm in college, she seems to be okay with my having plushies (probably bcuz I took the majority of my "family" with me to the dorms and she doesn't have to see them anymore), and her attitude seems to be more like an irritated "Ohhhh-kay, WHY are you in your 20s and STILL buying those things?" than a full-blown resentment/hatred.


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16 Jan 2013, 9:46 pm

LtlPinkCoupe wrote:
I've been told both explicitly and implicitly to "act my age" over the course of my lifetime. Apparently no one ever told the folks I heard it from that they do not have the right to tailor another human being to their expectations.

I'm sure my stepmother wishes I acted more my age....take my stuffed animals, for example. Before she and my dad got married when I was 12 (and was more like a "visitor" or a "permanent houseguest" than a stepmother) she actually seemed to LIKE my plushie friends. She was okay with my taking one everywhere I went, she talked to them when I prompted her to, she tucked all of us in (me and my plushies) at night, and once she even took me to the Disney Store to pick out a Disney plushie.

As I got older, she seemed to actually hate my plushies, would drop hints that I needed to get rid of certain ones, and got mad at me when I bought/rescued new ones. I never understood that; I mean, as a teenager, there were much worse things I could have been buying, including but not limited to drugs, alcohol, porn, etc (now that I think about it, I missed sooo many opp'ys to play the "I could have been worse" card lol). Now that I'm in college, she seems to be okay with my having plushies (probably bcuz I took the majority of my "family" with me to the dorms and she doesn't have to see them anymore), and her attitude seems to be more like an irritated "Ohhhh-kay, WHY are you in your 20s and STILL buying those things?" than a full-blown resentment/hatred.


Thats the same thing that happened to me, well it changed when they had kids together for sure, she wants all of my toys etc. out of the our(read her) house eventhough its dad and hers and they say i'm part of the family. I don't rally have a room anymore their and all decor is controled by her so she can show it off.

Now she wants me to change my lifes basic fabric to prepair to date have a relationship I don't want to ever have, very creepy indeed. she really does not get me at all after all the years. Good thing I hardly ever see her anymore.



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17 Jan 2013, 1:52 am

I'm sure they do. I feel (and can act) much younger than my chronological age, and I like a lot of stuff (from clothes to books etc) that is generally YA.I feel like I am 15-20 years younger than I am, and that is really the age I have always felt like I was, even when I was younger than that age. It was like I was basically born that age. Some things have changed of course, but basically I am the same.
From a list I saw I have also understood that I am emotionally immature.


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17 Jan 2013, 2:10 am

Nobody really wishes anything or expects anything from me.