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27 Feb 2013, 9:22 am

I've noticed some stereotypes being constantlly put forward on here. What if a girl isn't ugly, she's considered attractive, but guys don't approach her because she's too aloof. If they got to know her they'd find she's not, but she's so quiet they think she just doesn't want to talk to them. Her female friends and relatives ask her why she's single because they can't understand it. What does she do?



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27 Feb 2013, 9:27 am

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What does she do?


To be less aloof.



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27 Feb 2013, 9:42 am

Well the obvious answer is to be less aloof she has to learn to talk to people, but my comment is in response to people saying a woman will get rejected if she aims above her league.

But also, what kind of guys is she compatible with? Who does she belong with?



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27 Feb 2013, 9:51 am

Quiet attractive guys



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27 Feb 2013, 9:57 am

hurtloam wrote:
Well the obvious answer is to be less aloof she has to learn to talk to people, but my comment is in response to people saying a woman will get rejected if she aims above her league.

But also, what kind of guys is she compatible with? Who does she belong with?


She has to be less aloof.


Too aloof =~ sign of "f*** off"



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27 Feb 2013, 10:08 am

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Quiet attractive guys

But they're both quiet and so don't talk to each other. Catch 22!

I often look at people at parties and wonder what in the hell they find to talk about. If I met a guy that started talking about Chernobyl or 80s Indie Rock I would be in.



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27 Feb 2013, 10:25 am

Yeah if they don't talk to each other they probably won`t hook up, but they would be most compatible if they managed to do it.

Most talking is small talk I find, just saying stuff for the sake of saying something, with the trick being trying to maintain interest.



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27 Feb 2013, 10:26 am

hurtloam wrote:
I often look at people at parties and wonder what in the hell they find to talk about. If I met a guy that started talking about Chernobyl or 80s Indie Rock I would be in.


OMG - you may have just become my dream girl. :lol:

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27 Feb 2013, 10:45 am

hurtloam wrote:
Well the obvious answer is to be less aloof she has to learn to talk to people, but my comment is in response to people saying a woman will get rejected if she aims above her league.

But also, what kind of guys is she compatible with? Who does she belong with?


Well, since I know a lot of girls like this (who don't seem to wanna talk to me) I might have input. I'm also becoming like this, too, except I'm trying to be an aloof douchy male instead so people don't realize right away I'm socially dumb.

Basically, uhm, you gotta talk to people. Or wait for a guy to talk to you and act interested/keep talking to them.

As far as types go, any type you want and can stand being around for over 15 minutes at a time is a good start.



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27 Feb 2013, 10:47 am

hurtloam wrote:
Vomelche wrote:
Quiet attractive guys

But they're both quiet and so don't talk to each other. Catch 22!

I often look at people at parties and wonder what in the hell they find to talk about. If I met a guy that started talking about Chernobyl or 80s Indie Rock I would be in.


My problem is I start talking about my favorite Japanese pop group Yellow Magic Orchestra and Toyota 5mge engines when I meet girls and then they don't wanna talk to me. :(

Last time I was getting my hair cut, the girl cutting it asked me what I watched on TV. I said I didn't watch TV and would only turn it on like very two weeks. I also said when I did I'd watch Top Gear and Anthony Bourdain and Andrew Zimmern on the Travel Channel. Same question with the radio, too. "Uh, I don't listen to the radio really."



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27 Feb 2013, 10:54 am

1000Knives wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Vomelche wrote:
Quiet attractive guys

But they're both quiet and so don't talk to each other. Catch 22!

I often look at people at parties and wonder what in the hell they find to talk about. If I met a guy that started talking about Chernobyl or 80s Indie Rock I would be in.


My problem is I start talking about my favorite Japanese pop group Yellow Magic Orchestra and Toyota 5mge engines when I meet girls and then they don't wanna talk to me. :(

Last time I was getting my hair cut, the girl cutting it asked me what I watched on TV. I said I didn't watch TV and would only turn it on like very two weeks. I also said when I did I'd watch Top Gear and Anthony Bourdain and Andrew Zimmern on the Travel Channel. Same question with the radio, too. "Uh, I don't listen to the radio really."


Yeah, I feel like that talking to people. They ask me about something sort of regular like where did I go on hoilday or do I meet up with my friends often and I have nothing to say because I don't do those things. Then I feel sad because I wonder if I'm weird.



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27 Feb 2013, 11:52 am

hurtloam wrote:
Yeah, I feel like that talking to people. They ask me about something sort of regular like where did I go on hoilday or do I meet up with my friends often and I have nothing to say because I don't do those things. Then I feel sad because I wonder if I'm weird.

I always felt this way when trying to join in the circle of men as they ramble on about hulking trucks, fast cars, driving recklessly and endless football/hockey. Bah... I want to be part of the group but I just have such a different view of the pet subjects (or less than zero interest) I eventually get pushed out of the circle anyway. :(



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27 Feb 2013, 6:26 pm

I think that body language would help with this. There are guides out there on appearing more approachable.
Smiling would probably be a good start as it would show guys that she's friendly.


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27 Feb 2013, 8:37 pm

1000Knives wrote:
Yellow Magic Orchestra


Are you into folks like Kraftwerk, as well?


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27 Feb 2013, 8:39 pm

This is a topic a have to follow :P
Hoping for some good tips.



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27 Feb 2013, 10:57 pm

SINsister wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
Yellow Magic Orchestra


Are you into folks like Kraftwerk, as well?


Not quite as much Kraftwerk, do like Telex, have a Telex vinyl single, too ("Peanuts.") For some reason, the Japanese electropop of that era is like, really crazy sounding. Like it has lots of stuff going on in the sounds and whatnot.

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