Aspie's Mom Question.....

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Okay for the guys, when did you start your interest in girls? I know boys go through puberty later than girls but my son still loves to play with Pokemon. He will be 12 on Saturday.

I became interested when I was 5. I got my first girlfriend at 17.

Tim

4th or 5th grade?

Okay so my guy is just a late bloomer then?

I don't think there is a set age for being simply interested in the opposite sex. However, I think people should be at least 15 or 16 before they start actually dating.

Tim

I wasn't really interested in dating until I was 15 or so.

I've never been interesting in dating. I've always been more into vehicles than guys, or people in that matter.

My son has Asperger Syndrome and is 16. He still shows more interest in games/computers than girls. He says he is just not ready yet, but will be when he's 17.

I first started finding girls attractive at the age of 13. It kind of hit me by surprise, actually. I couldn't even understand why I started acting so nervous around good-looking girls and women. But then I knew it: I hit puberty, and there was no turning back.

My brother is NT and had a childhood interest in girls by 10 and probably didn't pick it back up until 15 or so. I don't think the heavy dating started until he was out of high school though.

He may like girls but be hiding it because he doesn't know how to deal with it (or some other such reason)

Like Tim, I was interested VERY early! I DID hide it to a good degree because I was told it wasn't expected or accepted. About 13, the feelings just became MUCH stronger. Any stronger, and maybe I WOULD have been pretty aggresive.

Don't be concerned. There are a LOT of reasons he may be hiding it, etc... Has his voice started to crack/change? If so, you know he is developing right. If NOT, it may still be another year. Pediatricians are supposed to check that the testicles descended and are growing properly. If so, there is probably nothing to worry about. Still, I had the feelings earlier. Maybe everyone does. But I never came out and said HEY, this is how I feel.

BTW I think roughly 13 is supposed to be about the time the latest will START. I started earlier, but 13 was probably about the peak for me. Until then, don't worry. If you are REALLY concerned, have a good friendly male pediatrician or urologist look at him. Please talk to your son about this first. He may be able to assuage all your fears.

BTW The time for a pediatrician to start is VERY early. I think the deadline for correction is like 3 years of age. Don't ask me why, but undescended testicles start to atrophy, and won't work again after about 3.(I may be off by a few years, but 12 is definately too late) SO, if he DOES have a torsion, or decending problem, it is probably already too late. I think that is unlikely though. He WAS checked, right? And torsion(Which causes EXTREME pain) and decending problems(Which should already have caused HIM concern) ARE pretty common. FAR more common than autism, so any pediatrician, ESPECIALLY a male one, should make sure everything is ok.

BTW I am not a doctor, this just happens to be one thing I studied.

Steve

I was ten when I became romantically interested in girls. I was three or four when I first had a general interest in girls (that was the first age I remembered encountering them).

6 that was when I had my first gf funny part is it's longest relationship I have had of 5 years and I am glad I did as I would of had jack up till now and after 16 the dating game starts... Social is the 1 key we have a problem with, before that age it does not apply...

Like the 'book-smart, socially clueless' thing with AS, seeming childishness in one department and sexuality are totally unrelated; at least they were to me. I first really got interested in girls when I was all of 9 (and of course have been ever since) but didn't get to go to dances or parties (not really anti-social but confused more than anything else - my parents badly handled my AS and resented me) until I was 17.



In my case as a kid, exactly.



Same here but nobody actually told me that. I just picked up that it wasn't at my age.

Same here actually. I was tired and wanted to be quick about it. I determined it from films, and kids reactions at the time. Had I stayed around(I moved a LOT), and had I not listened to others there(that was probably the first time I did), my life probably would have been very different.

Some MIGHT have figured it out, though non mentioned it as I recall, but I otherwise could have taken this to the grave if people here hadn't said the same sort of thing. I don't think I ever told my mother, and I never told friends. People figure puberty starts EVERYTHING. It doesn't.

Anyway, as far as the mother that is concerned, don't let these be indications that there is anything wrong with your son. HEY, my interest at the time was electronics, and I acted the SAME way as your boy! Pokemon may sound like an odd interest for someone so old, but he isn't alone here, and I think the concept IS similar to D&D which a number of my friends played at least WELL into their teens.

My voice started cracking early, but I don't think anyone noticed. Perhaps it was because I talked so little, and tried to hide it, but it didn't seem to crack much, but it happened over a long period. I was even refered to in the feminine gender(solely because of voice) at least twice. Had I not seen similar things in comedies, etc... it would have concerned me. Frankly, at that time, I think *I* was the one most concerned, etc... Your boy is probably the SAME way.

Steve