Zinnel wrote:
People rarely lower their standards, what most people do is they just learn what it is they really want.
Not everyone can be everything at once. The funny thing is we often say people have lowered their standards when they start going out with people we see as unattractive or under their league.
You see its not really them who make their standard but us or society thats making the standard for them. Now however, people who are genuinely unhappy in a relationship but continue to stay in it out of fear of being alone have lowered their own standards.
I know 3 real-life cases:
A christian girl literally said: "I will never date a non-christian"; she ended up dating later on with a Muslim guy.
A Muslim girl literally said: "I will never date someone who's not Muslim and Arab" - she ended up dating a Christian Armenian.
A guy friend literally said: "I don't like chubby girls at all" - he got married with a woman 2x his size.
Standards my ass lol.
But were they just reiterating what their society/culture had told them to want? Coming from a christian background myself I could easily see a person saying "I will never date a non-christian", but that not being what it is they really want in a parter.