to be honest i dont really know any aspies or autistic people. my husband is adhd but is close to being aspie in fact i think he has a tiny bit of aspergers syndrome. he gets obsessions with certain things, where its beyond just a casual interest what anybody could have. but maybe thats to do with having adhd, i wouldnt know because i dont have adhd at all. i cant find a lot about adhd in 50-year-old men, it usually just say about adhd in children ot teenagers or young adults or girls. sometimes its hard to imagine a man in his 50s with adhd but if you was to meet him you will know he has adhd straight away, he is that hyper. i also find him unique, which is why i love him, and although we seem like oposite to each other, we get on so well.