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24 Mar 2013, 4:26 am

I'm not too girly, and a lot of music I like would be considered for men, but I don't girl's clothes (Even if they are not girly coloured). I guess sometimes I'm like a girl, sometimes I'm like a boy. I don't mind.



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25 Mar 2013, 10:07 pm

Had to share this pic! Me and my best friend, Chrissy :D
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24 Aug 2023, 9:51 pm

I’m okay with not conforming to gender stereotypes. They are just stereotypes after all. I will continue being a brony despite any possible ridicule I might receive.


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24 Aug 2023, 11:34 pm

jetbuilder wrote:
I'm wondering if anyone else is open to the people they know about liking things that are generally associated with the opposite gender.

I really like the My Little Pony FiM TV series, and several anime series that could be called "girly", and with the exception of a few people I don't really feel comfortable telling people about the types of shows I like to watch. At the same time, I'm trying to be more open with the people I know.

The thing that made me think about this was a shirt my best friend is getting for me that has Fluttershy (from MLP) on the front and "yay" right below it (from one of my favorite Fluttershy moments). I really like the shirt, but I think I'd feel weird wearing it around other people who know me.

I wish I could just convince myself and say "F*** it. I don't care what anyone thinks"
This is one of my biggest problems though..... I'm pretty sensitive to how people perceive me.


I get that, but at the same time I feel like if you want to rock a MLP t-shirt there is nothing wrong with that at all, like not the same thing but if I found a good oldschool ninja turtles shirt, I would probably wear that, so I don't see what the difference is if you wanted to rock a MLP hoodie or shirt.


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25 Aug 2023, 6:29 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
jetbuilder wrote:
I'm wondering if anyone else is open to the people they know about liking things that are generally associated with the opposite gender.

I really like the My Little Pony FiM TV series, and several anime series that could be called "girly", and with the exception of a few people I don't really feel comfortable telling people about the types of shows I like to watch. At the same time, I'm trying to be more open with the people I know.

The thing that made me think about this was a shirt my best friend is getting for me that has Fluttershy (from MLP) on the front and "yay" right below it (from one of my favorite Fluttershy moments). I really like the shirt, but I think I'd feel weird wearing it around other people who know me.

I wish I could just convince myself and say "F*** it. I don't care what anyone thinks"
This is one of my biggest problems though..... I'm pretty sensitive to how people perceive me.


I get that, but at the same time I feel like if you want to rock a MLP t-shirt there is nothing wrong with that at all, like not the same thing but if I found a good oldschool ninja turtles shirt, I would probably wear that, so I don't see what the difference is if you wanted to rock a MLP hoodie or shirt.

I hope that you're aware that the post that you are responding to was made ten years ago...by someone who probably isnt even on the site on anymore.



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25 Aug 2023, 8:24 am

Wow. This is a blast from the past!

Funny story: over the past 5 or so years, I’ve finally admitted to myself that I’m trans. I came out publicly and started my transition in 2021.

I’ve never been happier! I’m so much happier now that I’m not pretending to be a guy. I’m much more myself as a girl :)


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25 Aug 2023, 8:39 am

A lot has happened since I was here regularly. I’ve been in therapy for the past couple months and I’ve realized a lot about myself.

The big one is that, now, I’m not so sure I’m on the spectrum. I’m pretty sure my dad is. When I was younger, I tried hard to hide my feminine side and put on a masculine mask. So, I looked to my dad to see how to act.

I was putting on a cis mask, and the person I looked to while I was forming that mask was likely autistic. On top of that, just pretending to be cis caused a lot of depression and social anxiety.

The older I got, I kinda forgot that it was an act. That led me to think I was autistic too.

My time here did help a lot! But now, I’m not sure if I ever was on the spectrum.

When I transitioned, most of my social issues I attributed to being autistic went away.

So, yeah. Turns out I was a trans girl in denial and not autistic…


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