11 Jan 2007, 9:10 pm
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11 Jan 2007, 9:33 pm
Look for someone with the same obsessions as you 
It'll make conversation far easier. My bf has AS but we spend hours and HOURS talking about our interests...in fact that's how we met 
Don't go trying to pick up randoms at bars or anything though, lol...that probably won't work.
Do you have anything that REALLY interests you? Mingle in that community (eg: a certain video game fan base perhaps?) and you'll most likely find a gal that's as interested as you are.
11 Jan 2007, 9:35 pm
It'll make conversation far easier. My bf has AS but we spend hours and HOURS talking about our interests...in fact that's how we met Don't go trying to pick up randoms at bars or anything though, lol...that probably won't work. Do you have anything that REALLY interests you? Mingle in that community (eg: a certain video game fan base perhaps?) and you'll most likely find a gal that's as interested as you are.
Thanks for the suggestions and yes I am interested in quite a few video games but the only ones I am interested in are ones that guys mostly like.
11 Jan 2007, 9:38 pm
11 Jan 2007, 10:44 pm
John - give it a try, you never know who's out there interested in what. TRUST ME on this one. One of my female friends is hooked on Halo and WoW. Two more are into Soul Calibur and Tekken. 
Tim - For most things there tend to be forums actually...broad or narrow field as you like. Most shows/games/etc have fan bases around, it's a matter of hunting them down. I've found a fan club for almost every one of my interests in the past From there you can usually explore and find local fans etc. That's the easiest way to do it, anyway...as far as I see it.
Only thing to be careful with is not running off at the mouth too extensively 
As in, not stopping for a breath for an hour straight. But never fear. ALL men do this. We gals get good at working with it!
11 Jan 2007, 10:52 pm
Tim - For most things there tend to be forums actually...broad or narrow field as you like. Most shows/games/etc have fan bases around, it's a matter of hunting them down. I've found a fan club for almost every one of my interests in the past
From there you can usually explore and find local fans etc. That's the easiest way to do it, anyway...as far as I see it.Only thing to be careful with is not running off at the mouth too extensively
As in, not stopping for a breath for an hour straight. But never fear. ALL men do this. We gals get good at working with it!Ok, thanks for the advice. And if anyone's curious I like games like Metal Gear Solid, pretty much any WWII FPS, and the GTA series.
11 Jan 2007, 10:56 pm
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12 Jan 2007, 12:50 am
I would be fried if I've hooked up with an NT without knowing it, and he saw me as a Baby, because I wear Pull-ups. I'm not a baby, I have issues, down there. 
Grrrrr
However, I'm not worried about the issues, like I was a few days ago, because everybody has their problems.
12 Jan 2007, 9:52 pm
Tim - For most things there tend to be forums actually...broad or narrow field as you like. Most shows/games/etc have fan bases around, it's a matter of hunting them down. I've found a fan club for almost every one of my interests in the past
From there you can usually explore and find local fans etc. That's the easiest way to do it, anyway...as far as I see it.Only thing to be careful with is not running off at the mouth too extensively
As in, not stopping for a breath for an hour straight. But never fear. ALL men do this. We gals get good at working with it!How would I hunt down said forums? I will admit it is a little more difficult to find groups for interests that involve watching something (rather than doing something).
Tim
13 Jan 2007, 12:10 am
GrrrrrHowever, I'm not worried about the issues, like I was a few days ago, because everybody has their problems.
Not really worried honestly myself either. I think most people who know and or encounter me just think I am really shy and near genius in what happens to be my obbession.
13 Jan 2007, 6:09 pm
GrrrrrHowever, I'm not worried about the issues, like I was a few days ago, because everybody has their problems.
health issues are not exclusive to aspies, i am sure you will find someone who understands one day maybe an "NT"
14 Jan 2007, 6:23 pm
Not all NTs fit into the same mold Doesn't matter if you have problems like that CockneyRebel, there's plenty out there with either similar things to deal with or who would be 100% understanding (or it just wouldn't bother them one bit).
Having a dig around Google for interest groups can't go amiss...you'll find something out there about what you like. Some are harder to find than others though. You may want to try official websites too, often they have forums too.
Whatever you do don't lose hope or feel to down, people...there's someone out there for you. After all, I'm here! (Note...I am NT with AS bf, lol) There are more out there. It's a hard search for most people for the right partner, tbh...the right person hardly ever just appears out of nowhere and lands in your lap.
