The society is what makes our lives difficult

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I feel that most of the difficulties we, people with ASDs and other disorders, have, are caused by this society, not by the handicap itself. Maybe if the society was different, more tolerant and uderstanding, we would have less problems with our disorders, maybe even no problems at all.

Correct. In many cases, the widespread intolerance of our differences causes far more problems for us than our Autism.

But... erm... is this actually something new?

I agree... I see there is a MUCH greater emphasis in schools on group work and socializing/socialization. This puts those on the spectrum at a distinct disadvantage. The isolated, introverted types are recognized as troubled/damaged/disordered, etc. Now, in my school district, there is no classically speaking "gifted" program. The only program is for advanced academics, and they are redefining the word "gifted" basic on academics rather than intelligence. Academic success now largely depends upon social behavior.

Yeah, I see ASD as more of a difference than a disability. As a society we should learn to appreciate diversity between different people more.

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This makes sense to me. Society seems to have more of a problem with me than I do with me or it. But the idea applies to many other groups of people as well.

When diagnosed I was told this by the pediatrician:

"The problem is not you, just how people react to you".

WRONG. ASPERGER IS A BRAIN PARALYSIS.

Having a response for other people when they want it is really difficult. I think its an exercise in futility to try to impress people in the short term. I've heard the saying that the first few moments are the ones where you make a lasting impression, whoever set that standard had no patience for other people.

I think its a mistake on our part to expect results with other people too, I mean if I'm hoping to make a long-term impression, I can't expect quick results.

That is certainly a major factor, but to be fair the autism itself does seem to create some difficulties in itself, they probably would not be as disabling if it wasn't for this society however.

I´d say bullying and missuderstanding for having ASD (or being "different" in any other way) is a secondary victimization. And secondary victimization is often worse than the primary one.