Feel shaky and absent minded after emotional stimulation?

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Does anyone else get this way. It's like I feel slightly clumsier or stiffer and feel like I'm lost in thought and it's harder to focus. Often after this happens I may forget something or lose something because I just can't focus on the here and now. This feeling of being unable to focus generates more anxiety and makes me feel more more socially detached. People will say something to me and it will take me more than the normal split second to respond and I'll find it harder to get my words out. I've noticed it after watching a movie in the theater, going to a rock concert, or after I get into a deep discussion with people. Also, after I do anything even mildly stressful this tense effect lingers for a while afterwards. I notice that being around certain people triggers it as well. I find it bothersome when it interferes with my confidence with people. If I feel like I have to clench my fist or don't know where to put my hands due to this feeling it interferes with my body language. I feel like this is a major problem that interferes with my social ability.

Yep. I also experienced increased heart rate... basically it's anxiety and nerves. Every human gets that not just us.

I get that way and want to isolate myself and find a very quiet place to hide

It's not identical to anxiety. Anxiety is more anticipatory. This is like an after-effect. I also don't feel any physically noticable increased heart rate or palpitations, just this odd clumsy/shaky feeling and the feeling of being zoned out and lost in thought. I don't think NTs are nearly as affected as me.

Is it overstimulation?

It probably is. The thing is I think I need overestimation every once in a while. I remember times I got into a really good deep discussion with a friend and I felt this way afterwards. It was good though. I felt really connected. It's just that the lingering "wired up" feeling can keep me awake if I'm too stimulated in the late evening. I noticed drinking a lot of alcohol at a party isn't enough to counteract the overstimulation and almost makes it worse. NTs drink and it puts them immediately to sleep. I drink and it perks me up.

I get overstimulated by social interaction. E.g. I can talk with my staff at work, but then it takes me a long time afterwards to "calm down" - to stop feeling like my engines are revving at high RPM. I cannot just sit down calmly and resume whatever I was doing before, I have to spend time unwinding. It isn't necessarily anxiety - I might have had a perfectly happy conversation, talking excitedly about new technology. But I am overstimulated by the social interaction - not just the topic - and I have to bring myself down out of this state, or at least wait until it has passed by.

I think Aspies can get overstimulated for a number of reasons: we have to work harder at social interaction because we don't read subtle signs well; we get sensory overload; we don't multi-task well, so shifting from conversation to work just takes longer for our brains to process; our emotions may be more reactive, so we get exhausted faster; etc.

So there is this cost even for connecting with people. I guess that there is not much that can be done about it, but planning important activities to not occur after potentially overstimulating activities like knowing that you're doing to have to interact with people for awhile, then not planning to do much afterwards. Like I plan all grocery shopping to occur in late afternoon or evening, after I have done my most important work during the day, because I know that my brain will be messed up after overstimulation. So if I go to the store at 6pm, then my brain will get fried, but it will usually recover around 9pm, so I can start doing important things later at night again.

About once a week I will just feel like that all day long. The next day I'll feel completely fine, like someone flipped a switch.

I feel that way sometimes, usually during or after some sort of conflict or argument.

When I get mad, the forms of everything disappear, and it all becomes a big flash.

I get this too- I call it 'zoned', and i feel really drained, shaky and 'detached'. Sometimes I feel nauseous as well. Really don't like it if it happens at school when I need to work with the kids!

Interesting. I had no idea other people got this. It's toned down as I get older but when I am extremely raging mad I get this too.

it only really happens to me in big social occasions, or sometimes in any social occasion. first i get really hyper and talk non stop but once the social situation ends im foggy for ages, or anxious dont know why but i would say over excitement may cause it for me.

This happens to me a lot.

Yep, that's exactly what it is. I get really detached and lost in my thoughts. I notice it has happened after a get in a deep discussion where I try to share a lot about myself. I can feel a little bit like I'm stoned even though I'm not smoking weed. I just get like that and afterwards I'm obsessing and lost deep in thought. It isn't necessarily a bad feeling but it interferes with my focus and ability to interact confidently with people. I feel clumsier and much more absent minded than normal. I've also lost things. I've left my credit card at a bar or restaurant on a several occasions because I got overstimulated.