Anyone's family "use" their diagnosis "agains

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I am hesitant to "come out" to my often abusive family. On the one hand, the diagnosis might make them have to eat crow for always accusing me of being "immature", "stubborn", "the cause of all my own problems", etc.

On the other hand, coming out to them could backfire. They could use it as ammunition against me:
"See, I told you there was something wrong with her from the start". "any parent would have given up on a kid like that". etc.

Any thoughts? Obviously I don't trust my family. Just wondering whether the Aspie diagnosis will work for or against me in trying to relate to them after a long estrangement.

Many thanks to all who reply.

I guess my question is "What do you mean by 'family'?"
Your thingy on the side of your post says you're 48.
If it's your kids being nasty - just spank them til they shut up.
If it's your parents tell them they're going to a "home" if they don't shut up.
If it's your siblings tell them to get married and go home til they can shut up.
If it's your husband kick him in the V and tell him to shut up.

No one who keeps accusing people of being "immature", "stubborn", "the cause of all their own problems", etc- will ever be cognitively responsible enough to "eat crow".

Difficult families are difficult families. You know them better than anyone on this forum, so you'll have to figure it out for yourself. However, if you can't trust them, and they don't sound like the empathetic sort, then maybe it is best that you keep it to yourself. Do you feel like they're the type that would eat crow if they found out?