Do women make lots of effort to attract men?

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04 Jul 2013, 11:31 am

I wonder if women put a lot of effort into their appearance because they want to be confident that they will attract men. I find it hard to believe that they will wear lots of make up and take a long time getting ready simply because they want to "look nice". I think the underlying reason is that they aim to be the most attractive to the men that they come into contact with on a night out or whatever.

On the other hand I don't think men bother so much about getting ready to go out. They don't take ages with their hair and clothes and tend to automatically think they look good without making a huge effort.

I wonder if this is because in humans the female has evolved the instinct to attract the mate, rather than the male.

I know this sounds academic but do you think there is truth in this?

TheRealAdriana
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04 Jul 2013, 11:46 am

Robdemanc wrote:

I have a man and he loves it when I get dressed nicely, hair done, with make up on as well. I don't feel comfortable going out looking like crap even if it's to go food shopping. Not to attract men, but I just don't feel confident if I look like crap. My social skills are bad enough already, and I've noticed that people tend to treat me better when I wear makeup and dress nicely. Like if I need help at a store or something, the workers are super nice to me, and maybe it's because of my appearance or maybe it's just because I appear confident and so that makes them want to be nice to me.

Cilantro
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04 Jul 2013, 11:51 am

It's not entirely about attracting guys. Some people are drawn to beauty in painting, music, or the culinary arts, and some are drawn to hair, clothes, etc. There's also a lot of female-female competition in some situations, and more influence from a younger age to spend more time on personal appearance. Little girls may get to play with makeup and get dresses for their dolls, but boys don't get toy cologne, toy workout benches for their abs, etc.

TinyDancer
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04 Jul 2013, 12:17 pm

Maybe since most female human beings do not have as much of a capacity to get really ripped, make up and clothing become a way for a female to demonstrate that she takes care of herself, is clean, cares about the sensory, visual comfort and consistency that other people are experiencing. Whereas a man can work out and get visibly ripped and look healthy and like he cares about having strength to offer for whatever without extra frill.
Also, a female who looks like she has time to spend just toying with her appearance is a sign that she has extra resources, allowing her to WASTE time, and that is unconsciously read by men and appeals to instincts to mate with a female who has extra resources to spend on better providing for offspring.

see it doesn't have to be about very much mystical psychology, we can trace a lot back to just instincts on how to choose who to have sex with in order to strengthen the human race.

Kazuki

04 Jul 2013, 1:21 pm

Robdemanc wrote:

That is true but I think men are becoming more inclined to be aesthetically pleasing themselves, I take time to prepare myself if I am going to a social event and that could range from doing my hair in a certain style to moisturising, I have worn eye liner in the past as well.

If I am going to work on a normal day, I won't worry about my appearance but if I am going to a social event, I will make an effort. I think more and more women are becoming attracted to men who take care of themselves and that's why we are seeing many men follow metro-sexual trends now.

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