I feel love for him but dont know how to show

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slushy9
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12 Jul 2013, 4:36 pm

I have self-diagnosed Aspergers and Im 99% sure of it. This guy loves me and I love him too (gay love). He does a lot of things that make me happy, like purposely rubbing his ass against my arm (maybe Im going too far)... But I dont know how to love him back. Hes so nice and so smart, just like me. And hes so handsome. :nerdy: And hes rich. :lol: Im not sure what to do. Never been on any date. I seem to be just taking, not giving. Im thinking of starting a convo with him at lunch tomorrow. Maybe that will work?



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12 Jul 2013, 4:45 pm

:-) I'm really not in any position to give good advice, but maybe if you try rubbing your ass against his arm ?
What I mean is... look at the things he does to show affection and try doing some of those things yourself.
Sorry, I know I'm not being very helpful.



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12 Jul 2013, 4:57 pm

Find out what things he is into.
Find events he could be interested on attending to and suggest both of you go there by yourselves?



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12 Jul 2013, 7:56 pm

be brave.



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12 Jul 2013, 8:38 pm

:-) I think that talking while you both eat lunch sounds lovely.
It sounds like he would enjoy that.



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15 Jul 2013, 1:23 am

Just tell him you like him and that you are having a difficult time showing him. He should understand.



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15 Jul 2013, 7:44 pm

Can't you just say "I love you" to him?

Also, I this thread made me happy. I'm gay too and I always like hearing stories of loving gay couples.



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16 Jul 2013, 9:52 am

Just watch some tv shows where people flirt. Gay flirting should be the same as straight flirting.



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16 Jul 2013, 1:05 pm

Don't go for the L-word straight away. It sounds creepy, trust me. Just ask him over or out to dinner and see what happens. Really, unless he's a total jerk, if he's not interested he'll put you down gently; if he IS intersted he'll know you are too. And if he's doing things like putting his ass on you... he's interested. No fear, man. Go for it and have a great time.

If you're still too nervous-- do you have any friends who are couples (gay or straight?) If so, arrange a "double date" and just ask him if he wants to go out with you and your friends. Just my two cents :) Best of luck to you.