Post College life....Yeah no thanks.

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I just graduated two months ago with a degree in history and unlike a significant portion of people with bachelors degrees I have plans for future employment thank god.


I look at SOME of the things that the real world has to offer. Such as a steady salary job and decent working hours: Monday through Friday 8:30-4:30 and I say to myself, now thats ideal..........but........alot of the other things that the real world wants to offer me I just say no thanks.

For example: I really have no desire to get married have children or buy a house in the suburbs. First of all getting married means that I only love one woman.....yeah I don't think so......having children means that time I could spend enjoying time with friends me and the wife would be stuck taking care of the kid. I would not enjoy one minute taking care of that kid. My entire life would be a lie. Having to post video of my daughter's dance recital on facebook when I know that no one would be watching....or they would watch it for one second and then flip back to porn.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think that there is anything wrong with raising a kid or going for the traditional suburban life. But for me its impossible to want to return home after I have seen Paris and London........ Just wondering if there was anybody else on here who felt the same way.

Other than finding a place I'd like to live long-term, I couldn't care less about marriage and kids myself.

My thoughts exactly!
Creating a family with kids indeed means sacrificing 90% of your life for years and years. If it is of no value to you, don't do it. Fortunately nobody pressures you to do what the majority of people does (hopefully?), just do your own thing.
I easily see my future self living alone in peace & quiet, minding my own business. Others may not understand, but there is really nothing wrong with it.

Ih don't get me wrong, I want a big life I just want to engineer it the way I want it, much like everydody else I know.

Well, for a lot of people, post college life mean renting a place in an urban area and having a number of casual hookups. Getting married and moving to the suburbs is something you do in your 30s or 40s.

Lots of people don't get married after college. They travel, try out different jobs, gain experience, I think that what your depicting, life in the suberbs with a wife and children doesn't really happen for a lot of people until the 30's. As you grow older, it's likely your views will change as well.

So go rent an apartment in a city, try out some jobs, and hang out with friends.

I'm in my 30's now and that view has not changed yet. Mainly because I have AS and I never really got a chance to get that lifestlye and I still want to enjoy it.

To me, this sounds a little like you use AS as an excuse to not face realities/life. As long as we live in your own little bubble, life's easy - especially for Aspies.

That's ok, though. I've been in a somewhat similar situation before after I had finished my studies. The "fun" life others around me seemed to have (let's face it, most of the time you get drunk you don't do it because you like it so much but to forget about your sad sober life) looks appealing, doesn't it? I mean, no, not for us. We don't get that. But aren't we, deep inside of us, a little jealous? It seems so simple. They laugh, giggle, smile... clearly, they are enjoying themselves. Sure, we can enjoy ourselves if we want to. Intellectually, that is. Their joy is... different? Yes, different. Facial expressions, gestures, behaviour. Why?

Go, enjoy yourself, have fun and sow your wild oats. Then, start being an adult. It's not easy but it makes sense. You'll understand one day. Good luck!

PS: Before you accuse me of having misunderstood you, consider the following: What happens is we grow up and leave the lie of our bubble behind? Riddles, yay!