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does anyone else have trouble maknig desicions some times ill be in movie store or game store for an hour or 2 looking over each game or movie making comparesins to which title i should purchase.

until I learned to prioritize ahead of time and strategize, it used to take me forever to make a choice, but now it merely takes me an inordinately long time.

Im not sure whether I would describe myself as "indecisive", or not.

Good one.

I've gotten slightly better with it, but if presented with overwhelming choice and/or choices I don't really understand... I'll have no idea.

One thing I sometimes have an especially hard time with is deciding what to order at fast food restaurants. I often have to ask for extra time, which tends to make me feel self-conscious, etc. I usually try to know ahead of time what I want to get, but if I don't it can take forever for me to decide.

Yes, I have to study things online before I can go to the store or else I'll be standing in the same aisle for a half hour probably.

Same thing with restaurants and fast food. If it's a new place I will study their menu and choose what I want before hand so I can be prepared when I get there.

It is a symptom of Bad Executive Functioning a major autistic trait.

Yes! I'm really bad at making decisions. I have an example from yesterday:

My mom and I had to go shopping, and we were going to stop and get something to eat before we went home. I was supposed to decide where we were going to eat. After thinking about it for the hour or two we were shopping, I managed to narrow my choices down to three restaurants, and I thought I would ask my mom which one she would prefer. Well, as we were getting ready to head to the check out area, my mom decided that we should just grab something from the store we were in instead (they have some grocery items). I was kind of upset, but I stopped and tried to think of what I would possibly like to eat from the store. I couldn't decide at all. I probably would have stood frozen in the middle of the aisle for the rest of the night if my mom hadn't finally got annoyed and said never mind to getting anything. I ended up having leftovers once we got home.

Stuff like that happens to me all the time, and the only thing that helps at all is knowing about stuff in enough time to really think it through and do online research (if it applies) first, and not having people change the plans at the last second.

Go in with a plan. You want comedy or you want tragedy. You want the comfort of an old favorite or you're going to grab something new and see what it's like.

I can be with lots of different things. Playing the Sims 2 is one example. I can never make my mind up what house I want to build and what family I want to play. Every day I think of a new house design to build, and a new family to create. Also I am a ''PC hoarder'', which to me means I build up too much stuff on my computer and don't want to get rid of any of it, or don't know if I should. So the Sims 2 is rapidly filling up my disc space (or whatever it's called), because I build so many Sim houses and Sim families and then move on to a different Sim house and family, but don't want to delete the old ones.

This works for me.

Unfortunately, sometimes life hands me a choice which I have no contingency plan for and if it doesn't more or less conform to one of my more generalized mental maps, I can be pretty much paralyzed.

This is one of the things my wife never gets used to. I am totally stuck on an obstacle that looks trivial to her. When she gives me an alternative I take it and the idea that I needed that does not compute for her... It's frustrating for all.

I am extremely indecisive and second guess anything I successfully decide. I can make fast decisions if I need to such as when in line for food, but they typically end up being regretted.

I prepare myself with lists, prior research and making decisions beforehand whether in general or specifics. For things such as birthday or gift cards I try to get my wife to get them.

My wife knows that I spend inordinate amounts of time making choices but it frustrates her no end since making a choice is no problem for her and she can't understand my problem in this area.

That's why I have a set list of restaurants I'll visit, and I order the exact same thing every time. I suppose it wouldn't work very well for people who need more variety, but it makes my life easier.

I am absolutely horrible at making decisions! And whenever I do make a decision, I usually wind up regretting it.

An excellent recent example of this is my upcoming birthday. It's still over a month away and yet I have become completely obsessed with finding the "perfect present". I have a general idea of what I want - A Nintendo 2DS and some games. But which games? That's what I keep changing my mind about.

Heh, yeah, I tend to draw a complete blank when I get asked what I'd like for my birthday or Christmas, unless I have a pre-existing obsession at the time that would involve certain inexpensive material possessions I don't have.