Fit Mom Called "Bully"

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Here is a photo of Maria Kang and her three children:



It is included in this article: "Hot Mom Defends Herself Against Facebook Haters"

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Got no problem with her being proud of herself. But when using the word "excuse", it involves that people not doing so shall feel guilty, which is nonsense in my eyes. If you are already in need of your neighbors place in cinemas or airplanes, then you should definitly think of an diet and sport, because of that being really unhealthy. But doing an explicite diet during pregnancy or breast feeding is nonsene in my eyes. I have strict meal plans, still when I got into first pregnancy, I gained weight in not even four weeks. ^^ And according to doctors, I should have even cared for eating 350 calories more a day during pregnancy. Its simply a natural thing, that your body, wants to have some reserves for case of emergency to support the baby. Sadly I am not able to tell him, that they hardly will occure, where I live. ^^ As long as its about the typical 15-20 pound more (including baby) that are normal according to doctors, I dont see sense starting to diet, while pregnancy and breast feeding. Whoever feels disturbed by that, is invited to turn his head into another direction. ^^ Additional woman that needed an OP to receive their child, are simply out of medical reasons for more then an half year not allowed to do sports. A friend of mine still had aches, where the itches were, 3 months afterwards, so even walking or lifting her baby out of the bed, was hurtful to her.

So repeating, its totally ok for her to be proud, but using the word "excuse" is non-fitting in my eyes.

She is not a bully, but she is being self-righteous. She works out everyday and had to work hard for what she did. Good for her. However, putting "What is your excuse?" implies that everybody else should be working as hard (or harder) as she is. It implies that it is lazy not to work as hard as she did.

I don't really care if she had an eating disorder, it's irrelevant in this case.

She gets plenty of help from her husband for the kids. Hmm.

That implies that it's lazy to sit there reading your iPhone! So according to her, you should be working out all the time, not watch TV and basically not give yourself any breaks. Or you're lazy and full of excuses. Nevermind the mention of her husband giving her "plenty of help".

I don't blame people for having a go at her. I think she's just another one of those people who thinks women should be able to do everything (work+children) and look like a barbie doll, all at the same time. Because she did it, it must mean every single other person is a lazy fat f***. I mean, seriously!

Also, it means she gets to look down on everyone else from her high chair.

Yeh, I don't like this woman very much.

I'm sure my husband would love to be married to this woman. Unfortunately, for better or worse, he got himself stuck with me LOL

Anyone calling her a bully is making the term useless. At worst, she's insensitive to those who simply can't do what she's done, but insensitivity isn't a sin, just a faux pas.

I chose other. Maria Kung is a masochist. Sure she's hot and I was surprised to find out she's 32. With her working out and child rearing and running two business and freelance writing, she must be working every waking moment of her life. Only a masochist would do that. Does she expect everyone to be working every waking moment? I feel sorry for what those kids are going to go through at the hands of this tiger mom.

Consider that used to be a bulimic. Should people be taking health advice from a former bulimic. This is further evidence of her masochism. Also she may have been naturally slim to start with. Parenting can be a lot of exercise by itself.

She says that most things in life are mind-over-matter. This kind of thinking has helped a lot of people do a lot of amazing things. But life is not as simple as people like this think it is. There are people who may tell themselves this, and when they can't do it, they just get more and more depressed. They are told if they had more "mind over matter" then they would have succeeded. "I'll do better tomorrow" becomes a daily thing until years later they are so tired of it that they just want to die.

I remember reading some feel-good shared meme on facebook a while back. It claimed this will solve your problems, and it went something like

Love someone, Tell them!
Have a complaint? Speak up!
Want something, work for it!
(and so on, and so on.)

The implication is that any problems you can't solve are because *You* are making it too complicated. Life is simple, and the fact that you don't seem to be able to realize that, means something is seriously wrong with *you*.

In the end I resent most of these "helps".

The article quotes her as saying she is a "recovering" bulimic... meaning, she is not fully recovered, which means...she still engages in bulimic symptomology. Given this important techinicality, she should not be dispensing fitness advice and using herself as a positive example of recovery or health. Bulimia also manifests itself in a subcategory of "exercise bulimic" which is indeed what she sounds like, probably in addition to bingeing and purging. When she says "What's your excuse?" I'd say, "I'm a RECOVERED bulimic--and you are not!"

Agree about her bulimic issues making this appear less positive.

b_edward has hit the nail on the head. These supposedly helpful sayings are far too simplistic to apply to most peoples' lives. Also, the people who have succeeded *are* the ones you tend to see, giving a very biased view. You don't see all the people that worked hard who haven't succeeded. e.g. 95% of all diets fail.

I agree, she's making herself look like she's at the top of the chain.

Her message is "I'm perfect, you're all horrible, what you're excuse for not being as perfect as me?".

No, it means that while she may be prone to bulimic urges, she does not 'engage' in bulimic behavior. This is similar to a "Recovering Alcoholic" - a person who still feels the urge to consume alcohol, but who does not engage in it.

You may find it useful to learn something about OCDs and addictive behavior.

So you're saying that behind all of this runs her addictive/obsessive behaviour, which could be why she's got to where she has? That's an interesting thought.

I agree. She is insensitive and self rightous but you can't really call it bullying if she hasn't done anything to a specific person. I think that for it to qualify as bullying, she would have to post it to the facebook page of an overweight mother. Then she would be bullying that specific woman. But posting it to her own facebook page doesn't qualify.

So disagree with the facebook posters who called her a bully. I also disagree with the facebook posters who called her a bad mom. Their implication was that she exercises instead of taking care of her kids, a statement which actually comes a lot closer to bullying than her own statement because it's directed at her specifically. (Not sure what the semantics are. Is it bullying to leave negative and mean comments to a public article?) She stated that her exercise is done instead of watching TV or sitting on the parkbench as her kids play. So it's herself that she's shortchanging, not them. On the one hand, exercise is healthy. On the other hand, too much exercise raises cortisol levels- an occupational hazard for athletes. Does her exercise go to that level? I don't know. But if she never lets herself relax that could be unhealthy too.

I said no such thing - YOU did.

I think that her focus on fitness and health is what drives her actions. I also think that her children will eventually take on some of this attitude and be more fit and healthy because of it. Further, I think that if more people would eat right and spend an hour each day in cardio and muscle training, there would be fewer people making excuses for being fat, dying from strokes and heart attacks, and whining about how no one finds them attractive.

She actually looks like a cheap pornstar, no offence.

It was her body and her Facebook page. She felt a benefit from what she accomplished. She was in a hurry to get back in shape after the babies arrived, it was hard to do in such a short amount of time, and she did it. That made her feel emotional enough that she was compelled to share, which she did in a "picture speaks 1000 words" sort of way. She is clearly busy; I am not surprised that she did a concise message like "What's your excuse?" Perhaps I am missing something here, but I do not think Ms Proud Fit Mama was bullying out-of-shape moms.