Is it bad that I feel this way?

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Hi, guys. I'm a high school student, and I feel as though I SHOULD be socializing, hanging out with friends, etc......and yet, when I come home from school, I just want to relax, listen to music, and go on the computer. I see other kids from my school having lots of friends, socializing and hanging out, and I feel as though I should be doing those things, considering that I'm a teenager. I just want to chill at home, and not have to deal with other people for a while.

Also, I have always wanted to have the life that other NTs had, which was always going to parties, being social and hanging out constantly. I felt bad about myself because I would always stay home on the weekends, and not do a lot of stuff. Nowadays, I don't really want that lifestyle. I've been to the mall a few times, and yet, I've found that the noise at the mall is a little too much for me, and I prefer quieter places where there aren't a lot of people. I just want to relax at home and listen to some of my favorite albums, as well as playing video games. Is it bad that I feel like this?

Of course not. I am the same way, and I'm sure alot of people on this site are.

It's a no brainer for me: Socialize with people who dont like me, or doing something I actually want?

I don't think it's bad to feel that way at all. I think it's perfectly normal. Sometimes I have that same problem where I feel like I should be like other kids and be "outgoing" but you have to realize that some people are just more inclined to want to spend time alone. When I'm alone I feel most comfortable since I have my Pixies albums and notebooks, etc. and no one to be in my face about it and there's nothing wrong with that.

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I used to try to socialize,for many years, this year i not and have been much more relaxed.

I used to try to socialize,for many years, this year i not and have been much more relaxed.

I'm going through this now. Have to talk to my dad since I have literally nobody else to discuss my interests with. There are hardly any Asian kids at my school... They tend to like the same music and stuff as me, since my interests are pretty much just another culture's version of what NT teens are into. So, I'm stuck with my dad for companionship, since he's the only one who'll listen... It's been like this for as long as I can remember.

I feel the same way. To be honest, it is extremely conflicting for me. I'm new to the school environment, which is my local high school. Luckily, I'm in a program that has a lot of kids on the spectrum or are used to being around kids on the spectrum (smart person school), so they tolerate me relatively well.

But one thing I've discovered is my attempt to socialize like a typical teen usually results in me looking extremely, extremely stupid. Because I'm not being myself. And I honestly just have no idea what I'm doing. So, the result of me trying to socialize is me feeling like an absolute idiot for 5 months and trying my best to forget that day.

And I hate what normal kids do. For a while, I didn't even understand what "hanging out" meant. I just kept asking, "What do you do when you 'hang out'?"

When I went to malls, it was sooooo boring. I didn't get the point of it. The crowds were loud. I felt annoyed.


All I want to do when I get home is rest, do my homework and try to reorganize myself so I can get through the next day.