People using your autism as a scapegoat

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Has anyone else experienced people that notice that you might have a problem like remembering things, odd sleep schedule or perhaps even a fear or personality quirk to which they rationalize "Oh, it must be the autism!" It's like they stop seeing you as a human being but a living manifestation of this mental condition.

Sometimes they even rationalize this as a way to look down upon or negatively judge you. I mean, I know I have autism but that does not mean I've stopped being a human with human flaws that of which is not always a part of my autism. I find this to be really annoying and quite degrading how ignorant some people can be in regard to the the notion that I can't have human flaws but only autistic flaws.

Anyone here feel similarly?

No, this is expecting too much from people coupled with putting too fine of an edge on the differences.
It's borderline paranoia. They're not doctors and they probably don't care to know it all perfectly, they have their own troubles and interests.

I can understand why that would be annoying and insulting, but it's probably better than people blaming actual symptoms of Autism on you. You can't expect everyone to be well informed on things like Autism that have almost no effect on them.

I can't honestly say that it is all borderline paranoia, especially when some have come right out and admitted to my face that they think one of my mannerisms is a result of my autism especially when I know it isn't. The fact that some have even done this in a hateful or resentful tone especially makes me understand that it's more than any level of paranoia.

I can however see where you are coming from and how some of it may be paranoia, perhaps by process of having been subjected to the hostility or annoyance of people which I have been confronted by. I do tend to over think these things to a certain extent but I try not to let it blur the lines of reality and practical judgement.

The same portion of society that teaches prejudice also teaches denial.

The fact is that too many people build there self esteem entirely on finding other people that are “odd”. Why do you think the phrase “What is wrong with you?” is so popular?

Society also teaches that the person ascribed as “odd” should be feared. This is why people with
AS spend so much time in isolation.

Accusing others of being paranoid is the weakest argument. It is weak exactly because the other person isn't supposed to be able to defend themselves.

The prejudice against AS is real. We will not be able to stand against it with so much infighting. We must stand in solidarity.

PS

Actually doctors, especially GP's, also participate in that prejudice. One day we will see objective data on the number of people with AS the get G.O.M.E.R.ed.

Happened to me a few times. Sometimes, I was wrongfully accused of things I didn't do.

Some of my relatives go a step further and actually blame me for being lazy and for having weird behaviors and say the reason so many bad things happen to me is because of how negative and pessimistic I am.

Maybe if they weren't such abelist pigs and actually treated me like a descent human being, then maybe I wouldn't have been always in a bad mood, constantly expecting criticism and ridiculism.

I once had a frenemy who was always trying to play that trick on me. I got rid of her in 2011.

My partner who is completely supportive and who has been a huge help, sometimes will say things like this. I always call them out on it, but it seems that they don't realise they are doing it. I'm not hurt by it or anything, they are trying to help me work out my triggers and such, but sometimes can take it a bit far.