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This thread asks if you'd date/marry a smoker or not.
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NO. Second-hand smoke is hazardous to your health, so that's a big deal breaker for me.

What if they never smoked in confined spaces around you? Of all my relationships, only two have been smokers. Consequently, I long ago acquired the habit of never smoking in my house or in my car.

I do get the "kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray" thing, but as far as second-hand smoke goes, there are workarounds. (When I was married to/involved with a non-smoker, I brushed my teeth 3-4 times a day and chewed a lot of gum. Ultimately, my smoking or not smoking had nothing to do with the demise of the relationship(s).)

I would never date a smoker. I have a low tolerance for cigarette smoke.

Not that it's a really good reason, and not that anyone should be around a smoker if they don't like it, but one of the reasons I continue to smoke is that (like many Aspies) I suffer from hypersensitivity, especially to smells. Without deadening my smell receptors with smoke, I can barely function anywhere outside of my house. Even so, I still have to use strictly fragrance-free personal care products, laundry soaps, etc. The few times I've quit smoking, I've driven my S.O. du jour crazy by having allergic reactions to his deodorant, shaving cream, cologne, laundry detergent, etc. (sometimes even his own "natural" fragrance), to the point where some of them have begged me to start smoking again. I've had to change tables in a restaurant (or leave entirely if there were no other tables available) because of being seated near someone who was wearing too much cologne or strongly-scented deodorant or had used scented dryer sheets on their clothing.

<--smoker who feels about "pleasant" fragrances the way most people feel about the smell of smoke.

And y'all didn't believe me when I said I was weird.......

Ive dated a few smokers why not *shrug* over time i started smoking though but I smoke out doors and try and stay away from people who dont smoke.

I get the smell thing,is was once seated next to a woman that had the most awful cheap perfume and she had doused herself in it.Every time she moved the smell wafted around,my food even tasted like it.I would have preferred her to smoke a good cigar.
If people complain about the smell of smoke on clothes,well I find the smell of Brute just as sickening.

Full disclosure: I use both nasal and oral snuff, though I rarely smoke; it is an unrequited love for me. And when I do smoke, it is usually a good cigar.

As far as women go, though I would never ask or expect a woman to smoke, I must say I find it very alluring to watch an attractive woman smoke. But even if I didn't, I would much prefer a woman who smokes to a woman who uses any other type of drugs, whether legal or illegal. Nicotine has the distinction of being the only drug that both calm its users AND make them more sober. But, to each his, or her, own.

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I would not ever knowingly date or marry a smoker.

I would, however, break up with a smoker I had been dating, or sleep in a designated 'clean' room if I found out that my wife is a smoker.

Leave me in a closed room with someone for just a few minutes, and I will know whether or not he or she is a smoker -- if it's not the stink on their breath, hair and clothes, then it will be my watery eyes and scratchy throat that will reveal the truth. These symptoms have a completely different feel from those induced by dust, mold, or dog dander.

That's a crock. In the 1950s and 1960s, nearly every other adult in the country smoked, kids grew up in homes filled with secondhand smoke and rode around in automobiles with adults who were smoking, with the windows rolled up - every single day. Never heard of a single one of them who died of lung cancer in their teens.

Both my grandmothers lived with smokers, as children and adults and died in their 90s. One of my grandfathers quit smoking at 33 and died at 88 of lung cancer. Life is a crap shoot and everybody dies eventually. Avoiding tobacco smoke will not make you immortal, or guarantee you freedom from a disease, nor grant you one extra second of life on this planet.

Avoid it if you dislike being around it, but don't be duped by brainwashing social engineering propaganda. If you want to worry about something, worry about how genetically altered food may be affecting you.

I'd really rather not date or marry a smoker, mainly because I want the both of us to be around for a long time, and cancer's a very real threat. Dana Reeve never smoked in her life, but she caught lung cancer second-hand, dying less than 2 years after Chris.

Feel lucky for not having much hookah smokers in your country.

No, I wouldn't. I'd rather not be in a relationship with someone who is slowly killing themselves and withering away before me eyes

Actually, smokers have a life expectancy of seventy years. So, smoking does take a toll, but it is hardly as bad as what the PC crowd makes it out to be. Listen to the media and one could easily get the impression that breathing in second-hand smoke is as deadly as breathing in sarin gas.

As far as lung cancer goes, I think today it has less to do with smoking and more to do with other factors, such as pollution. Both of my parents died of lung cancer, at ages 62 and 64, within two years of each other, and neither smoked, though they did live most of their lives on refinery row on the gulf coast.

Smoking is hardly healthy, but I think its deleterious effects have been exaggerated. This is especially true in light of the fact that smoking rates are lower than they have ever been in US history, while rates for respiratory problems continue to climb. We need to get off of the anti-smoking PC high horse and start looking for real solutions.

of my two grandfathers, the one who smoked but didn't drink lived longer and was healthier than the one who drank but didn't smoke. The drinkers in my family all died very young considering, as opposed to the smokers or those who didn't do either drug.

However, the stink of cigarettes is utterly unpleasant to be around. I wouldn't date a smoker.

it is disgusting!

The bulk of the mass media actually promotes smoking in TV and film; they have no vested interest in preserving anyone's health, unless it means they get a corporate kickback from a huge hospital.

Any environment containing a large amount of harmful elements will negatively affect the lungs, but smoking is a deliberate choice of introducing them to your body. I love how Brad Stine illustrated it...

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