Is this a symptom of HFA/Asperger's?

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Conversation seems to be very fast - especially on TV and in movies... and when talking with people, I have a hard time responding in a quick & witty way... I always feel pressured to give SOME reply quickly, and often feel it was awkward, etc., and then much later I might think of a cool, witty thing I should have said instead...

Does this sound familiar?

Is there a name for this "symptom"?

Is it common among people with HFA/Asperger's?

I think that's common for ASD's. I often take time to think of a response. I don't think there's a name for this symptoms but for me I think it may be due to not thinking in words much. I have to force myself to have an inner monologue and think with words. Most people also know how to think before they speak and I have difficulty doing that as well. Most everything that comes out of my mouth or writing is automatic.

Very common, yes. It takes us longer to process things, so there can be awkward pauses while we interpret speech and think of replies. If you can get your friends to be okay with this, you may be able to get the time in conversations with them. Otherwise, you may have to rely on automatic responses and scripts. When it really matters, put it in writing. Writing gives you as long as you need to think about what to say.

i have that problem but mostly because i have a low verbal I.Q and have trouble speaking.

The French call thinking of the perfect thing to say too late "l'esprit de l'escalier", or the wit of the staircase. As in, you wished you had some witty remark to say before you left the room, but it didn't occur to you until you had already reached the stairs, too late to deliver it.

This is the story of my life. I think it is part of the neurological difference we have because of Asperger's.

Yep! Mine too!
Might also be because we want reason in everything.

I think so.

It feels this way for me and my autistic friends have a similar experience.

Yes, I attribute it to:

1) time it takes to translate into words
2) seeing more than is typical, even if it's the same amount broken into more pieces
3) actually listening while the other person is speaking instead of crafting a response

I have this problem constantly (another reason online interaction is great).

But, I suspect this a condition universal to all humans. It is a widely documented experience.
Also... some of the wittiest come-backs I ever heard sprang from the mouths of autistics.

Sometimes I respond hours or days later.

I have that problem all the time. It wasn't so apparent when I was a kid, but around the time I turned 12, it started really becoming a problem for me. For a good few years, I seriously thought that I sounded mentally challenged when I talked, and it even got to the point where I worried that I hit my head too hard somewhere and suffered some form of brain damage.