Could my parents and I be Aspies?

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Hi! I was originally going to post this on Yahoo! Answers, but it's down or something, so... here I am! Lol. Please no one attack me for self-diagnosing... I've been attacked for that plenty before.

So, I've had lots of issues my whole life, and I took some tests and they all say I'm very likely to have Asperger's (which would make a lot of sense to me. I also found the tests I think on this site, posted by some members). I always thought my dad might of had it (and I am A LOT like him) but just now I'm realizing my mom might have it too. Maybe I'm just crazy and diagnosing everyone but tell me what you think.

Mom: She doesn't listen to what anyone says. I mean, it's not a matter of not following directions, I mean she really doesn't listen to what anyone says. Yesterday I kept asking her a question on Facebook and she kept saying things totally unrelated to the question. ("When does the yogurt expire?" "I bought a big box." "When does it expire?" "The flavors are strawberry, peach, and blueberry." and about a week ago I told her I was at my friends house and that we were coming home, and she said she thought my friend was supposed to be coming over when I JUST said that my friend was coming over, and I repeated this multiple times and she just did not get it.) She also thinks she's always right, and doesn't understand or care for anyone else's viewpoints. (For example: eggs never expire; you can cook on styrofoam plates. I ate styrofoam filled hot dogs growing up.) She's OBSESSED with psychics and they seem to be the only ones she listens to. She's also extremely rude and she doesn't see how she's rude. She's extremely talkative and can go on and on about herself; she's very egotistical and denies doing bad things. If I have a book on my bed, my room is a "mess" and she FREAKS out. She repeats things over and over unnecessarily. She's obsessive about keeping the house clean and everything has to be done in her own way. She's got bad anxiety, and a few times I've challenged some things she does and all she does is shout "I /HAVE/ to."

Dad: He's always been kind of antisocial. Growing up, he loved reading over socializing. He's from another country, but he was so smart he got into the top school in that country (the equivalent of getting into Harvard in America). He knows five languages. He did nothing with that education though. He came to America and went to college a bit for computers, and he seems to be a bit obsessed with computers. He buys new ones very often. He also did nothing with his computer education, and now works as a security guard. He has friends but he doesn't seem to be a big fan of socializing. He gets really annoyed when the phone rings. When I was younger, he'd spend hours on the computer reading scientific articles and explaining them as best you could to an eight year old, and I loved it. Now he spends most of his time on Facebook or YouTube. He gets angry over the smallest things and starts freaking out.

Me: I've always been weird. I've been excluded from things, didn't have many friends growing up. When I was younger, if my hands got dirty, I would have MASSIVE breakdowns, so bad that my mom had to carry around wipes any time my hands got dirty. I also had this thing with touching door knobs the right way. I had to keep things in a certain order, and it always kind of bothered me. I could never finish playing Pokemon cuz I had to keep restarting the game in order to play it "properly." (I still have to play it "properly" (now it's using moves in a certain order, having specific goals) but I usually don't restart the game anymore.) I have to do things in a certain way, and when people mess up my schedule sometimes I'll actually cry because it bothers me so much. I have massive, MASSIVE breakdowns very often and I am a bit suicidal and I've cut myself recently (I need help, I know.) I'm usually extremely truthful. I get bored with people easily, and I absolutely loathe this. I told my dad that this girl was my new best friend, and he laughed really hard and said in a few months, she'll mean nothing to me. Well, that girl became my girlfriend, and it's been six months since he said that, but I am now getting bored of her (though I am bored of a lot of people, too.). I mean I do love her very much but if I truly loved her, why would I get bored of her? It really upsets me. I also get bored of things really quickly and I find life to be boring and I don't get the point of having interests, either. For example, I'm obsessed with Latin and languages in general, and I just don't get the obsession. I guess I'm smart; I go to school that's ranked between 50-100 in the world (but I'm struggling terribly so who knows. I'm obsessed with school and grades too and not living up to my expectations has caused many breakdowns and suicidal thoughts.) I suck at making friends and I felt very lonely when I started college. I also have A LOT of trouble remembering faces, and it gets worse if I see a person outside of class because my brain doesn't associate them being outside of class and therefore doesn't recognize them right away (or at all). I can occasionally be super sensitive to noise, but I am EXTREMELY sensitive to smells and it sucks (don't know if smells is an Asperger's thing, but eh). Speaking of noise, I loathe my mother's voice. Loathe it. If she's talking in another room sometimes I get very aggressive and start cursing under my breath and sometimes I'll have a breakdown because I really hate her voice. Another thing is not being able to sit still. I can get very hyper, and when I do, I HAVE to run around like crazy. No one really gets it. Also, I love touching people/being touched, but sometimes I freak out if I can't move for too long (generally after a few seconds). My family ridicules me for being so strange, and one time, when I was 12, I was absolutely terrified of meeting my cousin, and I was SCREAMED at which naturally caused one of my many breakdowns. My breakdowns tend to last for a few hours, the longest was maybe 16 hours (but it's usually no more than five). I find lots of patterns in things, sometimes things people would have never caught, which is fun cuz it helps me learn (I see sooooooooo many patterns in languages which is why I like them.) I daydream a lot, and I'd get stuck in daydreams often when I was younger. I write, and I was published when I was nine years old, and people say I'm a good writer so Idk. I became the editor of my school's literature and art magazine- and this leads to a funny story. When I was younger I had WAY more social issues than I have now, but I became so obsessed with going to Harvard that I forced myself into leadership roles though it terrified me (the admissions puts a lot of weight on leadership roles). I also draw. Sometimes I misunderstand things- like I'll interpret something to mean something totally different. But it's kind of a MAJOR mess up, it's like really, how could you interpret it like /that/? I'd say it happens about once a month now. I also don't take criticism well at all... never have. And I'm a bit of a hoarder (while my mom's the opposite which also caused breakdowns when I was younger; good times)

Uhm... that's all I have off the top of my head. Regardless I probably need to go to a professional at some point because of my emotional issues (I've been to a few already by force but they weren't helpful... wonderful), but what do you guys think? Sorry that this is so long.

"Please no one attack me for self-diagnosing... I've been attacked for that plenty before."

If you are this worried and convinced, you should go directly to someone qualified in diagnosing Autism. A lot of people play the forum diagnosis game, but we can't tell you if you have ASD or not, there are so many variables to the condition that are not detectable over a forum, not to mention we are not licensed Autism specialists. Everyone thinks they have ASD these days because "they are weird", I believe if you're that concerned then you should go directly to a doctor. Much like if you were coughing up blood, you go straight to the doctor rather than spend time on forums asking people.

High Functioning Autism may present itself visibly as certain eccentricities in behavior, but it's actually caused by sensory processing problems - it's a neurological disorder - so a laundry list of behaviors, while it might 'indicate' - is not the determining proof of anything. As jcq126 was saying, you can be all kinds of quirky and not be autistic and you certainly can't expect a bunch of strangers online to be able to diagnose you.

TBH, I don't see anything in your description that would even give me a distinct impression one way or another whether any of it might be an autism spectrum behavior. IDK, Seek professional help (that's not an insult, just my best advice).

Try to find someone who is knowledgeable about neurological disorders (autism especially, and how it affects adults). I self-diagnosed at age 20. It took me seven years to find a psychologist who knew anything about it.

You might have Asperger's. It appears to me that you and your mother have OCD. You also appear to have ADHD and your mother appears to have an auditory processing disorder. At any rate, life seems to be difficult for everyone in your family. I wish you well in your search for answers.
Note: I am not a psychiatrist so my opinion is only that.