Reasons why I never will have a boyfriend.What do you think?

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amapola
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19 Dec 2013, 5:20 pm

1.everyone hates me.
2.I have difficult character.
3.I don`t know absolutely nothing about forming real life relationships
4.I have absolutely no friends.
5.I have 10 cats.
6.I don`t like going to nightclubs.
7.I have high expectations from love
8.I am a real nerd.
9.I don`t notice when people are bored with me.
10.I am a nerd
11.I don`t know to cook anything except tea and coffee.
12.I am really clumsy.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.

Considering all that,I think that my chances are very little.i don`t want to change myself just to find a boyfriend.I`m only 18,so I maybe exaggerate like always,but I want to hear what do you think.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:32 pm

16. I lie about my age or show inconsistency about it.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:35 pm

I hardly think everybody hates you. Cheer up. :)



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19 Dec 2013, 5:37 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
16. I lie about my age or show inconsistency about it.

i typed 1993 year of birth instead of 1995 when I registered and don`t know how to correct it.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:37 pm

The only deal-breaker is the cats. 10 is too many.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:39 pm

At age 20 there's plenty of time yet to gain life experience and grow as a person. I know some people make a big fuss about youth, but there are upsides to aging especially when you need a little extra time to learn. What you start now could be amazing in a year, five years, or ten. Probably not the answer you want to hear.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:40 pm

DarkRain wrote:
I hardly think everybody hates you. Cheer up. :)

Well,this is exaggerated,typically for me :D My family loves me,but many people in school hate me with no reason.I have the best marks in my class,and they are always asking me for help when there is a test or something.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:41 pm

Welcome to the club.



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19 Dec 2013, 5:45 pm

AspE wrote:
The only deal-breaker is the cats. 10 is too many.

they are in the garden,my mum doesn`t allow them to enter the house.And I don`t want to change for anyone.I only accept ones who love me how I am.This is the main problem hahaha :D



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19 Dec 2013, 6:02 pm

amapola wrote:
AspE wrote:
The only deal-breaker is the cats. 10 is too many.

they are in the garden,my mum doesn`t allow them to enter the house.And I don`t want to change for anyone.I only accept ones who love me how I am.This is the main problem hahaha :D


Yes, that is a problem. But if you do find love you may find the rest of the stuff does not seem as important any more. But to make a love really last there almost has to be compromising or meeting in the middle on things.

Their preferences should be as important to you as your own - that is not only an aspect of love but basic fairness and equality.



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19 Dec 2013, 6:37 pm

go to a big school, do your best luna lovegood (hehe) impression and walk up to guys you are attracted to, say something random and see if they try and talk to you later.



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19 Dec 2013, 7:03 pm

Typically. The young ones and the recently heartbroken make posts like this. I havent been exempt from this either.

At 18 years of age, there is no need to feel down. I remember feeling the same way. Just do your best to keep happy and enjoy your life.


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19 Dec 2013, 8:29 pm

amapola wrote:
1.everyone hates me.
2.I have difficult character.
3.I don`t know absolutely nothing about forming real life relationships
4.I have absolutely no friends.
5.I have 10 cats.
6.I don`t like going to nightclubs.
7.I have high expectations from love
8.I am a real nerd.
9.I don`t notice when people are bored with me.
10.I am a nerd
11.I don`t know to cook anything except tea and coffee.
12.I am really clumsy.
13.my bedroom looks like the bomb has fallen in it.
14.I have no life expirience.
15.i am very stubborn in life,but in sex I want to be dominated and I live in montenegro where is no one like that.I checked registrations on personal ads,and only people from montenegro are just too old for me.

Considering all that,I think that my chances are very little.i don`t want to change myself just to find a boyfriend.I`m only 18,so I maybe exaggerate like always,but I want to hear what do you think.


Don't feel bad. I feel the same way about myself (which I will post pretty soon about.......).


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19 Dec 2013, 8:44 pm

Look, I may just be a dumb American with no clue how things work in Montenegro, but here in the USA the list you provided would have you annoyed at all the male attention. Is it normal for girls to be nerds there, or it it considered a bad thing?

Here, girl nerds are highly, highly sought after by boy nerds, but I know that my acquaintances from the Adriatic region (I have a co-worker who takes Christian communion at an Orthodox church and he is friends with many Greeks, Serbians, Russians, Albanians, etc. because of it) tend to have an old-fashioned view of how women should behave and might think poorly of a girl who enjoyed "nerd" activities.



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20 Dec 2013, 9:52 am

amapola wrote:
AspE wrote:
The only deal-breaker is the cats. 10 is too many.

they are in the garden,my mum doesn`t allow them to enter the house.And I don`t want to change for anyone.I only accept ones who love me how I am.This is the main problem hahaha :D

Then why even mention it?



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20 Dec 2013, 10:55 am

buffinator wrote:
go to a big school, do your best luna lovegood (hehe) impression and walk up to guys you are attracted to, say something random and see if they try and talk to you later.


This would have totally worked on me. I have always liked women with difficult personalities, provided they didn't falsely accuse me all the time.