Dealing with Jealousy?

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Hello everyone. I have a very serious issue in my life and that is my extremely awful jealousy that constantly puts me in a negative manner whenever something triggers that feeling. My concern is that I simply cannot deal with it. The reason why I'm getting jealous very easily is when someone parcipitates in a activity that I prefer to do, for example astronomy and I think that the cause of my jealousy is because I have issues with my arrogance, I wanna be the one that is better than everyone I know even though it's a bad habit.

So my question is:

When I later will study Physics in HS astronomy will eventually be mentioned in the large subject which will trigger this self destructive emotion in my brain, HOW can I prevent this from happening? I have 2 ½ weeks until we will study it and I wanna be calm because I do not like the feeling of being overwhelmed by being competetive even if it motivates me to accomplish my goal (my "goal" = being better in this case).

Also is this very common or somewhat, most people I see are only being jealous when it's about relationships which I tend to not care about. Also have you been possesed with the same feeling I do and in case your answer was Yes, how did you manage to solve it? (Or maybe you're currently progressing towards the end of it).



Also sorry about the poll, it might be inaccurate because this is the very first time I put these many poll options which I'm not used with yet.

Edit: This is the reason why i never talk about my interests with ANYONE, EVER. I think that I'm exaggregating the paranoid feeling of having them starting to show a interest in what I like. Won't that affect the diagnosis I'm about to get soon (couple of weeks left)? The only thing I can talk about is computer games but as long as they don't play it. xD

Sincerely, Quantum[i]

I can see how that might be a problem, but I have no idea how you should deal with it. Maybe you should talk to a therapist about that.

I love spending time with others who share my obsessive interests, so I have friends to talk to. Which, at the moment, I don't.

Knowing people who know things about a subject you don't, can be fascinating - you can share information and speculate on interesting "what ifs," that you can't talk about with anyone else because they wouldn't understand or care.

Holy s**t 1-6 times a week is rarely? Um, I just chose never. I think jealousy is a social thing, and I am not a social being. If so-and-so has a Ferrari, that's his thing, I'm not going to get mad or envious like "That should be MY Ferrari." I think I get jealous once in a blue moon. And I think you're right about most people getting jealous over relationships, which I couldn't care less about.
Well Quantum, the only advice I can give you is to focus on yourself. What the guy doing next to you is irrelevant, just focus on your own tasks.

I can't answer this, as your options seem so far from realistic to me.

I would experience a twinge of jealousy about once or twice a year. I would have described this as 'rarely' but according to your options that would instead mean I was jealous almost daily. If I was jealous as often as that I would be seeking psychiatric help.

Are you sure it is jealousy? Could it be something else? I certainly feel a negative emotion when people like what I like. It is hard to explain but I do feel kind of possessive over it but I think it's because it feels like it is part of *me* and they are invading my personal space by being attached to the same thing as me.

It can make me go right off a subject sometimes. I also tend to dislike what other people like in a reactionary way. The interest is not important, it's whether it is "theirs" or "mine". It may be a way of retaining (psychological) independence, I don't know.

I don't know if this relates to your question or not now. Still trying to work all this stuff out myself.

HS students have a lot of emotional turmoil to deal with, if I think way back. Even so, you should definitely discuss these feelings with your psychologist. I can't even begin to imagine feeling jealous of someone else for sharing one of my interests. I actually feel happy and excited when I talk to someone who shares my interests. I definitely appreciate it if they can tell me something that I didn't know, although I do feel a little envy when someone has a far easier time understanding the subject than I do.

I can't answer your poll. I do get jealous but it's seldom. I don't get jealous weekly or even monthly.

it doesnt sound like what jealousy is suppoesd to be in the OP but am not sure what it is,maybe its the fact are unable to cope with how things feel.

am unable to experience jealousy and have always been pleased to see other people get things or get somewhere they want to.

What Purple Feet said is what I was thinking about it maybe not being jealousy. One of the things on the spectrum is the difficulty putting a label on emotions.

It sounds like you may be experiencing a "drive" sensation. I call it my "fuel"...
It is not me wanting what someone else has... I never have been jealous of others in that way. I don't care enough about what is going on with them to want whatever they may have. I have enough work to try to keep myself going.
But I do get a sort of burning feeling if I hear about someone who is enjoying being alive or doing things in their field.
I don't want to be them... or have what they have... I just want to have my own life be something I can enjoy.
So that burning for me is my fuel to make me try harder and work more to go where I want to go in life.

Maybe you have a high drive for success? Nothing wrong with that!