How touchy are you?

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I am touchy as hell. I remember all slights I have suffered since I was ten.
How do you react?
I withdraw.
Do you forget and forgive?
I never forget, sometimes I forgive.
Which is the treshhold of perception of slights?
Mine is awfully high. A missing smile from a person usually amiable with me is enough.
Are you touchy with people you don’t know?
I am. Passers by, shop keepers, cashiers.
Has this something to do with AS condition or autism?
I am not sure. Your (mine) condition is one of dependence from other people acceptance and affection which I am at odds to repay.

I can be touchy, but I am very laid back most of the time.

Tim

Intrinsically I am very touchy. But in my age I have learned to shelve some of these feelings. Still, the worst is that I know that by way of being me that i will sans intent cause slight to others. I know that this does not always get back to me. And in my ignorance i wonder: "Who did I hurt today?"

I am touchy, 'oversensitive' as my mother used to call it. I've tried for most of my life to grow a 'thicker skin' but I haven't so far and at my age, I don't think it's going to happen.
It depends on how confident I'm feeling too, if I'm in a confident mood, things which would otherwise get under my skin I can just to brush off. I tend to withdraw but lately I've decided to stop doing that. It is giving power to whoever has done the hurt and I don't believe you should allow anyone else to have power over you.
Also I think maybe Jungian types come into it. (Jung again! Sorry, but it seems relevant here)
Feeling types think other types are as easily hurt as they are but often it's not so. I often apologise to my (thinking type) husband for saying something I think hurtful, but 9 out of 10 times he's not registered the remark as hurtful at all.
Also, intuitive types can pick up other people's moods which can be very distracting. It's a matter of building an efficient barrier, buffer, whatever you like to call it, between yourself and the outside world to provide a cushion to the incoming 'stuff'. I wonder if that's where the AS comes in? I've always thought my barrier/buffer/persona inadequate.

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I'm afraid of what people think of me.

I'm like this, too. I always notice if someone doesn't smile, or uses a brusque tone.
Isn't this a bit odd for people who are supposed to be oblivious to non-verbal social cues?

I am very sensitive, but I try not to let things bother me. I know that, if I allow myself to think negative thoughts, then they will just build up and build up until my mind is filled with nothing but hatred and annoyance at what the world has done to me. It is much healthier to keep a positive outlook on life.

I'm pretty sensitive as well; and I absolutely hate going one-on-one with people unless I know them really well. If people call a one on one conference with me, I get really sensitive and if even one thing is said, I can cry. It really depends on what they called it for. Like my track coach called me over because one kid and I were arguing about Ein Kleine Nacht Musik by Mozart (one of my special interests, Mozart) and he wanted to tell me that he thought I was right. (WTF, I know...lol) Well, I ended up thinking that he was gonna tell me to shut the hell up or something and I ended up crying and joining the swim team (to this day, I've never done track again...haha)

But in other situations, I can be freaking tough as nails. It really depends on the people and the situation.

~Aspiegirl89~

VERY. ! !

I've tried that, but there is always disapointment for me.

I wouldn't say I'm overly sensitive because for the most part, I don't understand facial expressions or verbal expressions meant to hurt me. They go right over my head so people that engage in them are just wasting their time. This happens if people do passive/aggressive things like "HELLO Zanne. How are YOU today?" as if I can't hear or something. If it's not too annoyingly loud, I'll answer, but sometimes I just turn around or walk away depending on where I am. Later on, they'll tell me that they were trying to be rude to point out I'm rude or that they thought I was a b***h (frequent), but finally figured out I was just clueless. Feelers have the worst time with me. I've even had feelers gets so upset over their perceived hurt that they've tried to set me up at work. Even in those cases, I don't get mad...I usually tell my boss what is what and if they are naive enough to fall for that stupidity, I don't want to work for them anyway.


You have to really, really do something obvious for me to notice that you did something directed at me, but if you do, or even if you just do something stupid that ends up actually hurting me, you are done. I call that flipping my "mother" switch. My mother will cut people off on a dime and it will be like they aren't even alive. I can be that way, but it takes a lot to get me there. Once I am there though, there is no coming back for me. I will never trust the person again.

I am too, once I had an unpleasant incident when my mother sent me buy something only with loose change, cents and so. I counted it very neatly, but the cashier woman did not want to accept the money and said it was not the right value and made a fuss. I said "You have got to accept it!" and she said to her colleagues nearby that I was 'cheeky as s**t'. In order to humiliate me a bit, she counted the pieces of coins and again counted them wrongly (I think she did it on purpose). The other customer - women and cashiers looked at me as if I was an Alien and shook their heads, though I only insisted upon buying something with change money, what's wrong with that? After like 2 minutes I withdrew my money and paid with a coin of greater value (it was just one little product I wanted to buy, I think just a yogurt package).
After that I never payed with loose change again and I used to go to another supermarket.
Customer service isn't very good here in Germany. It's actually pretty bad, it's like the customer has to say 'thank you' to the cashier and the cashiers are women with bull-dog faces who never smile (ok, exaggerating a tiny bit )

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Based on what I've seen at this board, I think some of us get annoyed or upset waaaaaay too easily.

I'm hypersensitive and I'm grateful if people will let me get away, without hating me or curing me.

Not touchy at all; I think ignorence is the only problem poeple have.

Ignorance as in how?