do rich,attractive,athletic aspie have it ''easy''

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question,do think aspie who are either
A-rich
B-attractive(especially for female)
c-very athletic(very good at sports)
d-has a very good talent,that impress people

have it ''easier''than Aspie who don't have them things.
do you believe pretty Aspie women have it ''easier''
do you believe rich Aspie men or Aspie men who are very athletic
have it ''easier''.

I'm not amazing looking, but I'm pretty enough to get a guy. However, I feel it's harder to judge a man's motives and know where you stand in a relationship if you're on the spectrum. I've had more than one partner, but I find it hard to know if I'm being treated well or not by somebody, so I often rely on support forums to ask questions and let off steam. I don't know how to handle many parts of a relationship. I don't know about anything else in your list, I don't think any Aspie has it made for them if they want a life that is fulfilling in different aspects, e.g. good job, stable relationship, lots of friends, however not many NTs do either. I do, however, think it's easier for an Aspie/ASDie to get on with a NT with a good amount of understanding, once the trust has been established. Saying that, I think many of us can be too trusting with people who are close to us, yet too paranoid in other aspects.

In my opinion, attractive people (especially felmales) , athletic people , and rich people , both aspie and NT, have it somewhat easier than ugly, uncoordinated and poor people in general. That is to say they have an advantage ON AVERAGE over ugly, uncoordinated and poor people. The life of an individual hot, athletic rich person might NOT be better than the life of ugly, clumsy poor one because the former might have a life threatening illness while the latter is perfectly healthy but the average rich, athletic hotty will do better.

everyone always thinks someones got it easier.

no human being will have it easier regardless of how much money they have,how famous they are etc-money and fame etc simply flavours the experience of struggles they go through,everyones got their own sht to go through.

Being attractive makes life harder for an autistic woman because she is more likely to be targeted for sexual harassment and sexual assault by predatory men (and the occasional woman) who see her as easy prey. I don't know if this holds true for men. They are vulnerable because they're autistic, but being good-looking probably doesn't make it much worse.

Having a particular talent can make life easier if it allows for employment, which often lets an autistic person dodge some of the difficulties that come from the stigma of disability.

But as for subjective quality of life, that doesn't have much to do with attractiveness, wealth, or talent. Subjective quality of life--life satisfaction as reported by people themselves--is almost entirely determined by whether a person feels that they have meaning and purpose.

Feeling as though one is much less attractive, much poorer, or much less talented than those around him can definitely reduce quality of life--but the important part is the comparison, not the actual state of affairs. One may feel quite rich, because he can feed all five of his children and even have meat on Sundays. Another may feel very poor because he cannot afford cable television or stylish clothing. The first person is happy with his level of wealth, the second is not, even though the second person probably has more money. Same goes for talent and attractiveness. A B student may look down on himself because he's not an A student; a genius may look down on himself because he hasn't got a Nobel prize; a developmentally delayed youngster may feel very proud of having learned the alphabet.

Happiness is very much a matter of perspective. That doesn't mean that you can just decide to be happy and automatically be happy, but you can train yourself to see your situation in a realistic light, to see purpose instead of helplessness, to find your talent and beauty instead of being jealous of others'.

I wouldn't suppose they have it easy. People are just susceptible to think that.

I think having a really good talent could be a marketable skill, that could make it a little easier to bear and support oneself.

Just look at some people in media that kill themselves. Billionaires, famous actors.. From our perspective they should have it "easy", being accomplished and have money, yet from their perspective they're so depressed and miserable they can't even stand to live.

But well, if I won £10 million in the lottery I could hire a chef and all that. Get my supercars...

Absolutely.

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In general I would think it would be less difficult.

I don't know, I'm not one of those types. I feel that I have it easier than most *ahem* women, because of my Cro-Magnum features. Guys see a *ahem* woman my size dressed like The Kinks and they run the other way.

....Just call me Mick

Yes. People are very forgiving of my oddities when I am in my "actor" mode (i.e. I'm "on"--having an outgoing personality, wearing makeup, clean, dressed well). When I am dressed well, I am beautiful... more than average. When I am dressed in my sweats, baseball cap, 3 days dirty with no makeup on, I get a very different reaction to people. Just polite, vs over-the-top "can I help you"s and willingness to go out of their way to show me where something is/get something they might be out of, etc.

It's weird, but I've always felt like that person (the "actor") was almost a different personality... now I know why (only recently found out I have Aspergers).

I can't be too sure. I think I feel they probably do have it less difficult since I think physical attractiveness and wealth can help cover or lessen other things. So I'd say they probably do have it easier but perhaps not easy. Don't know for certain as I've never been "physically attractive" or rich.

I will add that even when I was working paycheck to paycheck and barely scraping by/in debt, I could always rely on my looks (in a good way, not a slu*ty way...lol). Now I have money, and life is much easier, but that has nothing to do with Aspergers. People don't respect me more the more money I have. It has everything to do with my looks.

When I learned how to do my makeup correctly and how to take care of my skin and hair properly, people started giving me more attention. I use this to my advantage for two reasons: 1) I can make things easier on myself when trying to get something that is not so easily attainable (with makeup, clean hair, etc), and 2) I can easily hide when I want to be invisible (without makeup). Both have their definite advantages and disadvantages.

I can only provide experience for one - I am attractive and my life has been anything BUT easy. Is my life easier than other AS womyn? possibly, I am high functioning and quite intelligent, this eases some things.

I REALLY doubt I have it easier than many men

I have it somewhat easy,at least for moderate to severe
autism learning disable guy,Im fast,which impress
alot of people,Strong,and funny.

my humor,and being Fast,has help me alot in Life.

I think A trumps everything else...As Cindy Lauper says...Money changes everything...

Doesn't that depend on how you define "an easier life"? Yeah, money makes it easier to get a big-screen TV or bribe a gold-digger into marrying you, but if I had a lot of money, I think I'd just stress out over having to manage it all. Once I have enough to live on, to meet my needs (including the need for intellectual growth and play--i.e., library access is a necessity!), I don't think having more money would make things any easier. All the things that people call "luxuries" would just add more complications to my life... big house? Have to clean it. Get a maid? Got to deal with the maid service. Go out to eat? Gotta deal with the traffic and the waiters and the menu. I'm pretty sure that the people who do have those things are no happier than I am. They just seem to have more expensive tastes.

I want to learn things, discover new things, put things in patterns, and lose myself in stories. I want to interact with animals and with people who know interesting things. I want to change the world so that everybody gets human rights. I want to have a job where I'm doing useful work. I don't think money can buy any of those things.