Need advice on talking to a girl

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I'm in a partial hospitalization program and met this girl I really like. Part of me wants to come out and say it to her. That route hasn't gone very well in the past but I wonder if it's me or them. I haven't asked her out on a date or anything like that. Should I start with something like that? We talk a lot and have similar interests so I think conversation wouldn't be a problem. Is she likely to accept and relate? Any advice would be greatly appreciated (even about things I didn't specifically list) as I'm somewhat of an idiot when I like someone.

Believe in yourself and remember that you never know until you go for it. You may be surprised with the outcome. So stop fixating on the outcome.

Ask her to have coffee with you sometime. It's not quite a date but it's still more than just talking as you work. If that goes well, then you can ask her to lunch.

Just ask her, even a no beats beating yourself up about not doing it.

I usually just dont bother and let the girl do the approaching and talking!Sadly I still dont catch on to their social cues half the time and act indifferent to them and be on my way.

That's where you're going wrong then.

OP, ask her when you can catch her "hey, would you like to go for a coffee some time?"
You don't have to order a coffee. You can order yourself a hot chocolate, a tea, fruit tea, or even some water. I discovered this recently when people would ask me to go to coffee with them, and I assumed they meant for actual coffee Silly me!

Think of a nice coffee place you can meet up, somewhere that has a nice little outside garden or in a nice area, don't go to somewhere that's too busy and urban. Pick a coffee shop that isn't a brand shop if you can think of one. Try to avoid ones like Starbucks and Costa

I love the advice and encouragement! Thanks so much. I'm always open to more though I'll try it today if i can get the courage up.

i don't like coffee either, always figured having coffee with a girl and not ordering coffee would just be another thing wrong.
we mostly only have starbucks and dutch brothers here, those two franchises have pretty much put all others out of business.