what's aspergers like?

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06 Apr 2014, 11:57 am

so ive been trying to explain wht being an aspie teen is like, but its very hard and she doesnt understand so i was wondering if i could have some help here please?

all answers are good answers, thank you so much (:

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06 Apr 2014, 12:09 pm

Continually being overwhelmed by the world and people, and needing to find refuse in my mind, where things are clear and peaceful.

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06 Apr 2014, 12:43 pm

Like my brain is working with maple syrup instead of oil.

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06 Apr 2014, 1:03 pm

In social situations, I can't think in real time.
It's like there's a bottleneck between right and left brain.

Best "What is Autism" piece ever.
http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/what-is-autism/
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt254500.html

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06 Apr 2014, 1:03 pm

You know those scenes in movies, where a character suddenly receives a huge emotional shock, and the camera rapidly zooms in on their stunned face, while the rest of the room seems to simultaneously pull back and get larger and larger and larger?

It feels like that, all the time.

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06 Apr 2014, 1:36 pm

Tahitiii wrote:

Thanks so much for that link! Indeed it is very well written, he looks like an interesting person.

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06 Apr 2014, 4:18 pm

Massive confusion about "the rules", trying to mimic the nypicals correctly and generally getting it wrong.

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06 Apr 2014, 5:13 pm

I am not sure how to answer. This is all I have always known. It is not like I have something to use as reference.
hmm.. Maybe I would say something on the intense world theory. I don't know about the biology part, it may even be incorrect, but the titles says a lot to me. When I compare myself to others it seems like I experience things more intensely, sensory, emotions, focus, passions, everything in my life is very intense. And also I would say it means thinking differently because that I do for sure, and feeling stupid sometimes when you struggle with things other people find easy or natural.

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06 Apr 2014, 5:22 pm

Tahitiii wrote:

Best "What is Autism" piece ever.
http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/what-is-autism/

actually this link explains what I was saying.

I don't know of the cause of this is more neuron connectivity though. It seems kind of precipitated based on the little information we have.
I think the intensity is the center of autism and explains other traits. too much information leads to social confusion, the unpredictability leads to anxiety and repetitive behavior, the sensory intensity leads to meltdowns etc but like everything connected, not like simplistic causal lines but nets. There may be much more than just intensity of course but I think it is the best explanation so far, subjectively speaking.

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08 Apr 2014, 6:06 pm

When someone laughs or scoffs at you, but you don't know why. You do the only reasonable thing (cry,stim,hide,etc) and it only gets worse. :huh:

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09 Apr 2014, 10:01 pm

Tahitiii wrote:

yet another autism blog/website page that starts talking about children because us adults don't exist

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09 Apr 2014, 10:19 pm

AutisticGuy1981 wrote:

Tahitiii wrote:

Best "What is Autism" piece ever.
http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/what-is-autism/
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt254500.html

yet another autism blog/website page that starts talking about children because us adults don't exist

I read it again and I don't see that.
It mentions child development along the way. It also mentions autistic adults who are writing books and are politically active.

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10 Apr 2014, 6:14 am

Tahitiii wrote:

AutisticGuy1981 wrote:

Tahitiii wrote:

Best "What is Autism" piece ever.
http://neurocosmopolitanism.com/what-is-autism/
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt254500.html

yet another autism blog/website page that starts talking about children because us adults don't exist

I read it again and I don't see that.
It mentions child development along the way. It also mentions autistic adults who are writing books and are politically active.

Doesn't mention adult once.

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The realm of social interaction is one context in which autistic individuals tend to consistently be disabled. An autistic child’s sensory experience of the world is more intense and chaotic than that of a non-autistic child, and the ongoing task of navigating and integrating that experience thus occupies more of the autistic child’s attention and energy. This means the autistic child has less attention and energy available to focus on the subtleties of social interaction. Difficulty meeting the social expectations of non-autistics often results in social rejection, which further compounds social difficulties and impedes social development. For this reason, autism has been frequently misconstrued as being essentially a set of “social and communication deficits,” by those who are unaware that the social challenges faced by autistic individuals are just by-products of the intense and chaotic nature of autistic sensory and cognitive experience.

Autism is still widely regarded as a “disorder,” but this view has been challenged in recent years by proponents of the neurodiversity model, which holds that autism and other neurocognitive variants are simply part of the natural spectrum of human biodiversity, like variations in ethnicity or sexual orientation (which have also been pathologized in the past). Ultimately, to describe autism as a disorder represents a value judgment rather than a scientific fact.

Talks about social aspects as if it only effects children

How many NT's read **** like that and assume you grow out of the traits? why is adults with autism an elephant in the room very few people want to talk about?

all that does is tell you what autism is, it doesn't try to make people understand what it's like have autism.

the person goes on about people think it;s just social skills but doesn't explain anything to say it's not

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10 Apr 2014, 11:02 am

AutisticGuy1981 wrote:

all that does is tell you what autism is, it doesn't try to make people understand what it's like have autism.

That was kind of the point. He does address "what it's like have autism" elsewhere in that site.

AutisticGuy1981 wrote:

the person goes on about people think it's just social skills but doesn't explain anything to say it's not

He does exactly that in the part that you quoted.

I think you've missed the point. He could have written a book. He's written a bunch. But you have to start somewhere.

His purpose **IN THIS SHORT PIECE** was to write a BRIEF introduction that was "concise, simple, accessible," and "not based in the pathology paradigm." He concludes with: "Ultimately, to describe autism as a disorder represents a value judgment rather than a scientific fact."

The rest of the website includes tons of quotes and links to articles written by autistic adults. The fact that adult autistics exist is acknowleged, but is not his main purpose in this one little article. In no way does he imply that it's only for children. "Autism is a developmental phenomenon, meaning that it begins in utero and has a pervasive influence on development, on multiple levels, throughout the lifespan."

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