A rather.. delicate question

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Heh, alrighty, my very own question on the boards. I was wondering what peoples views were on the following question:

Do girls, when out clubbing/pubbing etc normally go around trying to make out with complete strangers? Is it normal flirting 'procedure'?

I suppose the one thing that makes me clearly an aspie is my approach and lack of ability to/in flirting and casual 'courting' For a start i have no idea how to do it, and to be frank due to personal opinions DON'T want to do it because i feel it is demeaning to both yourself and those who you try it on with. Friendly flirting's good in my book (light hugs, maybe stroking the hair lightly etc, maybe a peck on the cheek/lips at the end of the night if you're really friendly with somebody).. but full on snogging? Is this a sign of a girl just cutting loose, or that she really, really, REALLY has no idea what she's getting into...

The girl i'm talking about is actually my best friend, and to add more complications to the pot, my most recent ex. I have alot of affection for her still and i'd say it also comes close to love in a relationship sense (the love is there in a friendship sense, definately). To be honest, i reckonise that i AM jealous of her getting all this attention (not to mention get the guy she fancied prior to us breaking up..), but i'm also so very, very concerned for her.

I mean, she's a very kind, sincere, loving person, somebody who deserves somebody of similar disposition. Yet there she is, wanting (irregularly atm, but i fear will become more common) to go around finding guys to dance provokatively to, and then make out with. Am i just being jealous/silly or is that cause for alarm?

Maybe she's in that rebound stage and looking for physical intimacy where-ever she can get it.

Kissing a complete strange in my eyes is crude. If she's drunk she won't have proper control of her impulses.... and men will take advantage of her.
I definitely don't think it's normal behaviour though.

go for the cute nerdy STD free girls, like childhood friends, in class, churches, convention centers and museums. stay away from girls that are into bars, clubs, online dating sites (unless nerdy) or have a family member try to hook you up with anyone. what a disaster that is

The thought of clubbing and going out scares the life out of me.