Is this common for people on the spectrum

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Hi I was wanting to know how many of you who live on the spectrum have done things that seem normal to you and look weird to others. Then the next thing you know the police have been called on you and you can't be in certain spots. What's worse they don't really give you a reason or bother to hear your story.

Daily. As such, I taught myself to hack and as if commanded at birth, drive VERY quickly. In my hometown, my license plate gets run pretty often, the database says something like "don't bother". I haven't been pulled over in years, and I'm fairly sure I look like the love child of Jerry Garcia & Frida Kahlo.

You'll see, surviving on your wits alone is a BLAST.

I have been accused of being a child molester before back when I was 21 all because a 14 year old boy reached out to me. We were never intimate with each other but two people connecting.

The "weird things" I do that seem normal to me, but are weird to others, are things mainly like folding myself up and laying on the ground..(I am thinking while doing this), or sitting at a table just entertained by my own thoughts. My sister gets mad at me for standing in the dark...

As far as your particular situation, I have something similar as I play with my grandniece and grandnephews, even though I am 44. I am the "baby" for my grandniece, who likes to pretend to be a mother. And I also play villains in the grandiose, flamboyant, "Disney" style.

My "as if commanded at birth" is the very antithesis of yours. I wish you would stop speeding and be considerate of others who might be frightened by your speeding.

being stuck in the "uncanny valley" is a tough place to be.

Oh no, that's terrible. Yes, we have to learn (sometimes the hard way), that we need to see our actions through society's lens. As a rule, I never hug anyone (not counting family and close friends). I never get too involved with people either. It's just too dangerous.

You also have to learn to edit your thoughts before you say them, too. What might be funny to you might be taken, for example, as lewd or inappropriate.

I strongly suggest you adopt what are called scripts. E.g., "Hello. Nice to see you?" "How are you?" "Good!" (Say good even if you're bad. Never tell workmates what's going on in your personal life.) "How about that game last night?" "This weather is great." I know that may seem insipid, but it's how the rest of the world communicates normally. We need to protect ourselves!

"'tis better to keep silent and as a fool thought about, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."

Then you've missed the point of my response, your life most likely doesn't put you in as many troubling or dangerous situations as mine; everyone has their own survival mechanism and I'd like to help them form a positive image thereof. I put a lot of work into my car and it keeps a number of my friends out of trouble.

I drive the same way although at this point in my life, I no longer have the friends and family to do this for.

With everything I do, I tend to come off as forceful. When really, I'm in a situation and I'm only there to do whatever the situation is and not something else. Others don't like that.

Never had the police called but I've had a number of other people treat me the same way.

I've gotten in trouble at school and with family many a time because I just reacted differently or was doing something that didn't fit what they wanted.

I use my laptop as a filter. I'll be doing something on it but listening to what's going on around. People will be talking and I'll jump in say something but most think I'm being anti-social.

it has been my experience that most slowpokes on the roads are passive/aggressive jerks who get off on impeding other people's progress.

Have anyone ever gone to a store before and the people who work there see you there all the time. Why you even buy things? Then when you go there the next time you are being thrown out due to them calling the police on you but you are not given a reason why?

Have anyone ever gone to a store before and the people who work there see you there all the time. Why you even buy things? Then when you go there the next time you are being thrown out due to them calling the police on you but you are not given a reason why?

I've been turned away from the grocery down my street once or twice for no legitimate reason. Once because I was joking with friends and some guy thought I might ACTUALLY bother to steal a watermelon, the other time I guess the security guard just wanted to doze off. I suppose I can see where I might seem forceful, but usually that's just what things look like when I have a lot of chores & errands. As a programmer, my laptops aren't just filters when I'm in public, they actually determine the course of my conversations; I usually only describe work I can demonstrate.