Certain things I don't care for anymore

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Tonight some friends tried dragging me to a club. They go to the club every weekend, they are cool. It's just that I don't care about meeting women anymore ever since I saw a woman naked. I was obsessed about never seeing a woman naked, and sex of course. But when I met a girl and she showed me her body, I instantly stopped caring. Before then, I was obsessed, in and out of hospitals, physically beating myself up, constantly being rejected. I used to go to clubs to meet women and all that madness. Now I never even think about sex. I hear guys talking about it and I talk about it to just to be in on the conversation but I really don't care. When I see a couple, I don't get pissed anymore. It's an empty feeling. I still talk to women, but now that I don't care it seems easier now. I feel like I get opportunities, but I don't care.
And I know what you're thinking "If you really didn't care you wouldn't be posting this" but this is not the case.

My question is, is this an aspie thing? I don't see any reason to go. I don't care for women anymore, therefore there is no goal to achieve. I'd rather be at home learning a new language or learning something else new, than to be chasing women. It's boring to me now.

Is it an aspie thing, when you don't see any merit in something then it's pointless?

I know this may sound far-fetched, but it almost sounds like you may be asexual. Did you have any sort of attraction towards women before you saw one naked, physically or romantically?

Didn't want my post being removed, but I'll go ahead. I still look at women on the internet and do things, if you get my drift. I still am attracted to women, I see pretty girls and say "Ooh she's pretty" but afterwards I just keep going. But I don't care much to be physically involved with one at the time. And I fantasize at night about a teacher I had, but it's usually just hugs and cuddling. Other than that I don't really fantasize about having actual sex with women. I like my own space and I like being alone with my cats.

I'm guessing that maybe it's because the past 8 years has put me through hell that I am glad it's over. I used to be on WP obsessing, reading the love and dating section and all that mess. But I don't care anymore. I don't read about it, I don't ask for advice on women. I have an ideal woman that I would like to be with, but I am in no rush.

It sounds very much like you are asexual. Being Asexual can mean two things: a) that you don't have sexual feelings at all, or b) that you have them but have no interest at all in doing anything with a partner.
You can have fantasies and do things as you say, and still be asexual.

That's the way I am too.

The club scene is a big game with expectations. It sounds like perhaps you've just matured passed the club scene type of woman? Maybe your looking for someone more mature or with other interests? Either way if you're happy with your cats at home there is nothing wrong with that.