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ldolisation and romantic obsession can be one and the same thing. Idolisation involves the elevation of positive traits to such a scale that negative traits become inconsequential or even non existent. The way to quash this is to seek out that person's flaws and home in on them to such an extent that you realise that they are in fact "only human". Maybe this helps.
He pegged this dead on. I definitely have this, even though married I still feel it with certain people from time to time. I find it very annoying because if I don't deal with it, I am very shy around these people (why idk). The finding flaws thing definitely works for me; good advice!
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We are not so different from potted plants in that, if given everything we need to be properly nourished, the outcome can be incredibly contrary to when we are not. A flower won't grow in flour, and neither can we.