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01 May 2014, 8:57 am

I'm 15. An older mentor of mine who happens to be the same religion and ethnicity as me (Muslim and Turkish) suggested that I'm old enough even in our religion where I can date, and he suggested that if i like a girl (my age) I should give them a flower, or a drink (non-alcoholic, of course) or a snack. Another person suggested I give them a poem, and/or say something nice. is this a good idea to try out with a Turkish girl who was raised in the U.S.? or would she consider it creepy?



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01 May 2014, 9:31 am

Grow up and come back when you are 20.

I have read some of your posts and you seem to ask about stuff like this all the time. For me you are just not ready. Wait a few more years before you start dating. You might be old enough to date but mentally you are still a child. Most of girls don't want so immature boys and I agree with them.
You will have plenty of time to get a girl after you become an adult. No need to hurry. It won't do anything good at the moment. A gilrfriend would just disturb you even more right now. You need to focus on school.



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01 May 2014, 11:19 am

Giving flowers, or sweets would be considered nice. Go ahead.


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01 May 2014, 12:10 pm

Kiriae wrote:
Grow up and come back when you are 20.

I have read some of your posts and you seem to ask about stuff like this all the time. For me you are just not ready. Wait a few more years before you start dating. You might be old enough to date but mentally you are still a child. Most of girls don't want so immature boys and I agree with them.
You will have plenty of time to get a girl after you become an adult. No need to hurry. It won't do anything good at the moment. A gilrfriend would just disturb you even more right now. You need to focus on school.


I've noticed boys who start dating early, get successfully engaged/married earlier too. They mature faster, relationship-wise.



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01 May 2014, 12:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I've noticed boys who start dating early, get successfully engaged/married earlier too. They mature faster, relationship-wise.

Like a lot of things, that can be true, but also not true. The variable lies in how mature the individual acts, and subsequently reacts when presented with a relationship.

However, like an RPG, even failed relationships will earn you EXP so long as you don't dwell on the outcome like an anchor weighing you down.

I think those things are a sweet gesture, give it a shot if there is someone you have in mind.


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01 May 2014, 1:11 pm

No girl would resent being given flowers and it would probably be considered modest enough for a start.


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01 May 2014, 3:30 pm

That doesn't seem creepy.



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01 May 2014, 4:36 pm

Thats a great idea do it! I would be flattered :wink:



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01 May 2014, 4:48 pm

I probably wouldn't do the poem though. A flower or a cupcake or something like that is a better idea.



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01 May 2014, 7:30 pm

I love getting flowers, candy, a cupcake/cookies(home made is best), and other such small things......I think it would be very sweet.