Finally am able to understand myself a little better now.

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Basically, I joined this website because I have been made aware that aspergers is the reason why I have always felt like I truly am on the wrong planet (or at least a different dimension The process on me awakening to the fact that I am an aspie has been a crazy, enlightening experience. Someone called me a "manic pixie dream girl" and being the aspie that I am, I researched that term until I felt like there was nothing more to know about it for the time being. In my research, whenever I would ask a question to the all-mighty(lol) Gooogle, Wrong Planet would pop up in my results. Curiosity would strike and I would read some threads on here. I related to almost every post. I saw my own self in another human being time after time. In reality I could hardly relate to most people. I join in hopes to find people that are like me. I want to share my own "quirks" and I want to hear yours. I'm sure we have a lot in common. It might help me better understand myself and improve the quality of my day to day routines.

ANWAYS!! !
I'm 23. Living in Phoenix, Arizona.
An activist to the core.
Interesting in learning anything and everything about everything.
Has an adorable cat.
Female.
Is an artist (specializes in realism and portraits).
Hoping to make friends and have conversations
I also didnt care to proof read any of this because I would have picked it to shreds and would have spent hours rewriting this. (but that's probably just me right?)

The Squid bids you welcome. Though we've never met one, we are sure there is another "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" somewhere within the confines of this virtual forum. You should get along nicely. As self-appointed WP greeter, (At least tonight) here's a turnip. Treat it nicely, and it will return the favor.

You're always right here on Wrong Planet

I like "realism" in art, rather than some of the abstract crap.

Some abstract is good--others are just something like expensive steel pipes or whatever.

This is the only website with a resident Squid ready to dole out turnips at a moment's notice.

You could post your art on this site.

Welcome to the forum!

So I had to Google "manic pixie dream girl" and I'm not sure I like the description I found on Wikipedia, nor do I get how it fits with Asperger's .... at the moment.

Thank you guys! I appreciate the warm welcomes
Where should I post my art ?? lol

So, I did not like the description of it either, when I read the first few pages and articles. I actually was super offended when I was called that. So, I seriously think I read almost everything I could on it. My understanding of it is that term is used to describe a character type. My friend (who I believe might be an aspie as well) told me the reason why she said it was because people see me as a MPDG. The reason why people see me as that is because I'm super offbeat, quirky, and not like most women. I only truly get to know a person or two at a time & when I come into the lives of my old friends or new lovers, they always come to know them self a little better because when they ask for advice, I give them a different perspective. I also kind of do my own thing. Superficially, I'm very artistic and wear whatever I want. That also fits the physical appearance of a MPDG. When I'm in relationships, I usually find people that are not willing to get to know me on a deeper level. I wind up changing their lives in a sense, but mine remains unaffected. Changing their lives because they are able to look at life through a lens of someone like me and some people are fascinated with this and use it for just the experience. Still after all that, they haven't cared to get to know me and use me for my generosity/advice. I found a post about being a MPDG on wrongplanet. It truly is just a superficial character description in hollywood films. When I looked deeper into it, it related to an outsiders perception of being an aspie as woman. The perception of any film with a MPDG is always shot from the main character's perspective. I might write something up about it today, actually

So does that mean like your a magic sprite alien but underneath are like a giant termite creature who bites the head off its victims. And that you inject some chemical in them so that they think they enjoy the process ? Well kind of think, because since you ate the brain they have to use the pancreas to think with. Pancreatic thought is very underestimated btw.

Seriously though, the realization process can be quite dramatic as far as insight into your personality goes. Like finding a lost map that predicted many of the ways you would take. However, along with pancreatic thought, do not underestimate the uniqueness of your personality. Having ASD does not mean you are a programmed automaton. We come in as many variations as the NT version.

Hi Misshmash!

New here myself (just joined today).

That was a highly entertaining read! In fact I was laughing through most of it. As with most of the introductions I've read on here tonight, I can see so much of my (slightly strange) self in these messages. Thanks!! !
Feeling pretty much the same since I found out yesterday, purely by chance.

At 51 years of age, I feel I've finally found the race I belong to and they're right here...... on Earth!

Welcome aboard Misshmash

Hi Misshmash,
I think I understand what you mean, and what the MPDG trope has to do with a certain experience of life and relationships, even though Hollywood explains it badly and very much from an outsiders viewpoint. I'm not sure its a shallowness though, more that some of us have developed with "breadth" rather than socially conditioned "layers" and the ethereal-ness of that seems to affect other people quite strongly.

Have you come across Debrowskis oversensitivitys theory? It makes sense with what we now know from neuroscience about different wiring, it seems to fit well with the spectrum experience and its perhaps another way to understand some of our differences.

Hi Misshmash,
It's lovely to meet you I am new too (signed up today) and I'm looking forward to getting to know and relating to "my people" .

I know what you mean about this label and I definitely think it reflects an Aspie girl. Have you seen the movie "500 Days Of Summer"? The leading lady in that would be described as MPDG (and I have actually seen reviews of the movie where she is described as such) which makes me a bit mad at how she is treated in the movie - like not a person with emotions, feelings and a back story! It is an offensive term, but at the same time, I feel love for such a person because I know what that feels like (hello, Hyperempathy!) and can relate on so many different levels. In that way, I feel like it's a label to also be proud of, because there is nothing shameful in being who we are! It's true that people see girls like us as some sort of "ride" to take and leave when they are bored - in fact I never thought about it really, but that's how I have felt about certain friends I have had in the past.

I love art and would love to see your work. In high school I often escaped through painting - nothing in particular really, just beautiful colours or on school Art projects. The actual act of painting was very soothing.

I'm a writer myself, and now that I've come across the Aspergers traits (while obsessively researching to find out what is "wrong" with me) I not only found out that I have the traits of an Aspie, but the developmental delays. I've always struggled with verb tense and complex sentence structures - so much so that I've often wondered if I could ever actually make it as a writer at all. I do think my "special interests" are Stories (Fantasy and medieval mostly) and humans (I'm always trying to figure them out) which has made me always want to be an author (especially of young adult fiction).

Sorry - I'm rambling again. I look forward to hearing more about your struggles and successes and trying to figure out this confusing world along with you!