The UCSB shooter--an Aspie with a rant against women
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Your anecdotal evidence indicates that there's some truth in the Alpha male theory in pua culture.
Okcupid showed that women find only 20% of men as above average (looks wise only) and the rest as significantly less than average.
A majority of women find a minority of men attractive...yes, sounds pretty much Alpha-thing to me, this whole alpha-thing in pua had been theorized based on this very observation that you are talking about, Tarantella.
"Researcher Roy F. Baumeister mentions in his work that while 80 percent of women have historically managed to reproduce, only 40 percent of men have.
With ancestral humans, there was rampant polygany, with the top men dominating the fertile years of multiple women, and a significant portion of men facing natural and insurmountable celibacy. Women went along with this arrangement because it meant getting the best genes for their children. Even an ugly woman would much rather share a man above her with other women rather than settling for low status man. Men would have to undertake dangerous activities to overcome their lowly sexual status -- banding together and invading neighboring tribes and stealing their women, challenging alpha males in their group, etc...all of which results in male deaths, while the women continue to sit around getting impregnated by the winners.
This arrangement went on for tens of thousands of years, heck, millions of years, considering all the creatures that preceded homo sapien sapien..
Several thousand years ago though some elite men realized that they could make their societies more stable, and the men of those societies more willing to fight for that society rather than against it, if every man was guaranteed a mate. Thus, monogamy as a cultural norm was instituted with the idea of it benefiting the average man who would otherwise lose out to the top men who get multiple wives. Monogamy was a socialist divvying up of the good of female sexuality among the male population.
Societies which practiced monogamy became more stable, as men's energies were directed in other avenues beyond worrying about mating. The men weren't as eager to fight against their own societies. Perhaps this is one reason why Western culture came to dominate the world: Monogamy allowed its men to work together rather than against each other.
The West however decided to rock the boat with the Sexual Revolution. Since then, divorce has become more common. Marriage is delayed. Single motherhood is widespread and socially accepted. **** shaming is frowned upon. Obviously, these things are incompatible with a strict monogamous culture.
The consequence is that monogamous marriage no longer functions as a socialist divvying of female sexuality. Society, in some manners, has returned to the law of the jungle, in which, once again, top men dominate the fertile years of multiple women.
For, consider the case of one 35 year old man today marrying a 28 year old woman he has known for five months. But prior to that marriage, in fact, going back to his years as a high school sophomore, he's never been without a girlfriend around his age for more than a few months. Whether the number of girlfriend's he's had is two or 15, it's clear that he's consuming more than one woman's prime years. The consequence is that other men lose out.
Thus, the amount of sex had by the average man has remained the same since the Sexual Revolution, but the variance has increased.
Videogames and pornography have the cultural function of pacifying the male sexual loser population."
I got that from an article I found somewhere, sounds like there might be some truth to it, that there being more male sexual losers than female sexual losers
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That doesn't mean that humans are naturally monogamous. In fact, the two closest species to humans are not monogamous, i.e. chimpanzees are polygamous and bonobos are are a promiscuous species.
Well, I'm musically-inclined, and so is everyone in my family except my mother, father, and sister. That doesn't mean my musical ability is *not* genetic.....
Just because the species closest to us doesn't exhibit the trait doesn't mean that our species didn't independently evolve into it, or that it wasn't passed on to humans when we and the other primates diverged from our common anscestor.
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That doesn't mean that humans are naturally monogamous. In fact, the two closest species to humans are not monogamous, i.e. chimpanzees are polygamous and bonobos are are a promiscuous species.
They are close but we are the only survived species of Homo genus, so not close enough.
At...30? I introduced a 19-yo to the delights. Honestly though, I wouldn't want to do it again. He was very sweet, but it was so much work, and really not very good.
People grow up sexually, too, and I imagine that after a while it's hard to catch up. Like you'll get there, but it'll take some years. Would I really want to be involved sexually with someone who's a few decades behind me, sexually? It says nothing about the guy himself if the answer's no, just that it's too big a difference between him and me. So - maybe it means your first lovers are a bit younger than you, or also without much experience.
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One reason is also that women can only conceive once, and then they are "infertile" for 9 months. So the first man to succesfully conceive with a women has claimed her reproductive system for 9 months, while he can still conceive with other women. That doesn't mean the other men didn't have sex with the pregnant women, just that they weren't in time to make her conceive.
If you wanted to quickly and efficiently populate an uninhabited island you would send lots of women and a much smaller amount of men.
Your anecdotal evidence indicates that there's some truth in the Alpha male theory in pua culture.
Okcupid showed that women find only 20% of men as above average (looks wise only) and the rest as significantly less than average.
A majority of women find a minority of men attractive...yes, sounds pretty much Alpha-thing to me, this whole alpha-thing in pua had been theorized based on this very observation that you are talking about, Tarantella.
I'm aware of this, but long ago stopped pointing out the obvious to those guys: they can remediate this by not being awful. There are a lot of grown, experienced women out there looking for boyfriends and husbands, but they're not going to involve themselves with jerks when they don't have to. They just stay on their own instead, and then the guys cry about what b*****s the women are. Yes, it helps my exbf that he's handsome, but what really gets women is that he talks a great game up front: terrific accomplished background, very attentive and mannerly, great conversation. Soon enough they find out that he's got real problems, and that's it.
The pua types are fixated on things that allow them to avoid growing up and stopping being jerks. They decide that the way to get into that magic 20% they believe in is to have lots of dough and a six pack and a Lamborghini. Not "be a good, emotionally available, responsible, interesting human being who doesn't embrace hatred and resentment for a living, and doesn't fear and despise women."
And yet oddly enough I don't want to punch and hit you, but I do think you're unbelievably selfcentered about this. Because this single mother has had to toughen up in ways that would reduce you to a little pile of pencil shavings, and did it. Just like every other single mom out there. Just like most *people* out there. Yes, life is tough if you don't have people guarding you from it and doing for you.
Us guys. Whoo-ee.
One reason is also that women can only conceive once, and then they are "infertile" for 9 months. So the first man to succesfully conceive with a women has claimed her reproductive system for 9 months, while he can still conceive with other women. That doesn't mean the other men didn't have sex with the pregnant women, just that they weren't in time to make her conceive.
If you wanted to quickly and efficiently populate an uninhabited island you would send lots of women and a much smaller amount of men.
Why is anybody in the world taking Baumeister seriously?
Also, the fixation on reproduction here is borderline offensive. I know, it's crazy, but women are more than walking uteruses.
Your anecdotal evidence indicates that there's some truth in the Alpha male theory in pua culture.
Okcupid showed that women find only 20% of men as above average (looks wise only) and the rest as significantly less than average.
A majority of women find a minority of men attractive...yes, sounds pretty much Alpha-thing to me, this whole alpha-thing in pua had been theorized based on this very observation that you are talking about, Tarantella.
I'm aware of this, but long ago stopped pointing out the obvious to those guys: they can remediate this by not being awful. There are a lot of grown, experienced women out there looking for boyfriends and husbands, but they're not going to involve themselves with jerks when they don't have to. They just stay on their own instead, and then the guys cry about what b*****s the women are. Yes, it helps my exbf that he's handsome, but what really gets women is that he talks a great game up front: terrific accomplished background, very attentive and mannerly, great conversation. Soon enough they find out that he's got real problems, and that's it.
The pua types are fixated on things that allow them to avoid growing up and stopping being jerks. They decide that the way to get into that magic 20% they believe in is to have lots of dough and a six pack and a Lamborghini. Not "be a good, emotionally available, responsible, interesting human being who doesn't embrace hatred and resentment for a living, and doesn't fear and despise women."
idk this really hasn't helped me get attention of women. and the lots of money, six pack and Lamborghini certainly gets those men atttention. whether it gets them real love or not I could care less. as I won't ever have those things. I do wish I did except the lambo. having those things wouldn't nessicaly change who I am as to the bold.
to be honest I am jealous of your ex then atleast he gets to date women even if it doesn't last. seems far better then I could have a relationship that last but get no dates. as having good qualties but being alone is useless. I'd rather have dates and get to enjoy companionship for atleast a little while each time. then be alone forever.
so having those things may not gurrentee you a relationship but it makes you 60% or more likely to get one then if you don't have them.
just as one can have a degee but be aweful at the job, but if having the degree makes you way more likely to be hired then a guy who is good at the job but lacks the degree.
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