Can you help me complete my okcupid profile?

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http://okcupid.com/profile/1nfern0

I know my profile is incomplete. Everyone that sees my profile tells me that. They just haven't offered any specific advice on how to complete it.

That's a hell of a lot more complete than my POF profile ever will be.

BTW If girls who like girls are as susceptible as men to a pretty profile pic, you should be getting a decent amount of attention.

You don't mention anything really about your interests/hobbies in your profile, so I'd add a paragraph about that and expand upon what you've already written. Your profile really doesn't say anything about who you are as a person...really the only unique thing you mentioned is that you are passionate about psychology, but you don't say why. I'd add a sentence or two about your personality...are you super-outgoing or mostly introverted?

I see A LOT of profiles that look very similar to yours on that site, but with the information you've given it can be very difficult to start up a conversation, or to even know if you want to start up a conversation. And without that information, really the only thing that someone has to go off of is your pictures (which are very good btw)

You could give some details about what you like to do when you go out and/or hobbies. That way people know what they might do with you when you meet them or where to take you on a date.

I do have many interests that I didn't mention. Mainly because I don't know much about them or I'm embarrassed. I've been thinking of mentioning that I play accordion, but I'm just way too embarrassed. I've also been thinking about mentioning philosophy and anthropology, but I don't know much about that.

You need to write more about your interests, hobbies, what you like doing for fun etc. Your profile doesn't really say anything much about you at all. Usually, when I come across a profile like, I would find it very difficult to write a first message because there really isn't much to go on.

Maybe you should look around OkCupid more to see what other people's profiles are like. From my knowledge of the type of people on the site, playing the accordion makes you more attractive. And there probably aren't many people in your age bracket who know much about philosophy and anthropology either.

I agree with Pobbles. Girls are going to just look at your pic and be like ooohh what a pretty girl and message you. At least I would if I was a girl.

Actually I think it would be a great idea for you to mention that you play accordion. I would add to your goofy nerdy persona.

I would expand a bit on your interests, maybe a relevant example like if you enjoy art you could say something like I enjoy the works of .... and I try to catch the latest exhibits at (insert gallery here)

I saw that you had answered a good number of questions, for me when I am deciding whether or not to communicate with someone I actually spend more time reading their Answer Explanations than their profiles themselves. The people I have messaged all had either funny/thought provoking explanations that made them more attractive to me. You can learn a lot more about someone (in my opinion) just from an anecdote on a question then them saying "I like to Travel". Usually I don't bother to message people who have no explanations etc simply because I can't base any attraction off a few paragraphs and some photos (nice pics by the way).

Overall your profile is pretty good, prepare to be inundated with messages from random guys despite your stated preferences (91% match not bad)

I've actually had zero messages from guys wanting a relationship. I did get one message from a reddit guy(I posted my profile on reddit), but he wasn't seeking a relationship.

You've listed yourself as "gay" on your profile. So naturally, guys would assume that you wouldn't be interested in dating them because you're lesbian and are looking to date other girls. That's why they haven't sent you any messages.

I've heard that some guys have a lesbian fetish. I don't really identify as gay because I'm not 100% sure of my sexuality. I just listed myself as gay because I'm attracted to girls and I don't really want to date guys. I don't feel safe listing myself as bi because I've heard that bi girls get a lot of pervy messages. If it was an option I would list myself as queer.

As far as your first sentence, I think you misunderstand.
As far as pervy messages, all girls get them.
The difference between queer and gay is too subtle for most of the world.
If you setup your profile to discourage men, and you don't really want to date guys, why do you care if they ask you for a date? Don't be selfish! =)
You're probably doing better than can usually be expected for a dating site. =)

Am I missing something? You have just said in your previous post that you haven't gotten any messages from guys wanting a relationship. Why is that a problem for you if you don't want to date them? Look, guys who are looking for a relationship will never message lesbians because they know that the answer the'll get is 100% guaranteed to be a no. So, if you're interested in having relationships with guys (which usually includes dating), then don't list yourself as being gay, rather list yourself as "bi" if you're attracted girls and open to dating them as well but are also interested in guys. If you only want to date girls as you say, then keep your orientation as "gay" but then expect to only get messages from other girls who are looking for a relationship (which is what I would of thought you had wanted).

I don't mind that I'm not getting messaged by guys. I was just stating a fact. I've expanded on my self-summary, but I'm not too sure if it's too negative or not.