Who's under 30 and lives alone?

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And what is your situation exactly? What brought you to this state (of your own volition?) and will you remain alone for the foreseeable future? What would the ideal situation be, if this is not it?

(This is what made me wonder how many such people live alone... although, I assume, most people wouldn't end up with mould on their skin. )

Ich leb' allein, in meinem himmel. What brought me to live alone? Well, I got a job, moved out, and have lived on my own for the past 6 years or so...pretty typical really. I plan to live alone, until I no longer do . I hope to get married someday, but I won't live with anyone else until then.

Hey Stargazer,

You have it pretty good living alone--with your classical music and classical stories and all.

You're living an aesthete's dream.

I'd continue on this path.

I lived alone for a long time before I got married. I yearn for those days of living alone!! !! !! !!

21 years old, living alone on disability until I get through vocational rehab and successfully stay in college or work for a reasonable period of time.

Hoping to get to that point in the next year or so and get a job. Might be able to pay for things myself that way. SSI is absolutely humiliating.


Also looking forward to the whole marriage thing. Not going to happen unless I've been in a happy relationship and living with someone for at least a couple of years, though

I am fortunate enough to live in a place that's very cheap and parents willing and able to support me. I don't know what the future holds, Voc Rehab hasn't been too helpful but I'm still working with them. Voc Rehab said they could pay for me to go to school so I hope to do that eventually. I'm trying to work on myself, I need get back in therapy and take advantage of the help offered to me. Getting out of my parent's house was step 1, I just sat in my room and did not a lot of anything for years.

My daughter is 20 and lives alone.

She is awake all night and sleeps all day. She doesn't cook for herself but comes over to my house for all her meals then escapes back to her own house.

She was against being in her own place when I first mentioned it and had meltdown after meltdown about it. I only had a 2 bedroom house and I have a 7 year old living with me. She had been in a specialist college (residential) and when she got kicked out I just didn't have the room. The house next door became vacant so for us the perfect solution.

She enjoys her own space but I am close enough when she gets anxious about anything (which is often, during the night)

Her anxiety has gotten worse since she has had her own place and I am starting to think I need to get a bigger house and she move back in with me.

She is diagnosed with ASD

Simplegirlviv, it's great when parents are supportive... in my case the anxiety was due to them, so that would have never worked out...

What brought me to live alone? Sort of a family fall out. I definitely like it though I hated living with other people and I doubt I ever will again. Perhaps marriage but I don?t know. I like being in control of my environment everything is the same now and nothing gets changed on me and there?s nobody around to worry about.

I'm 25 and live alone. I absolutely love it and could not see myself living with anyone else other than a significant other. I'm still single though and probably will be for awhile.

What brought me to live alone? Well I moved away for school and work in another city when I was 20, so I lived with my girlfriend then for years. Then we broke up and I moved back home to save money. Now I got a good job and moved away again! The only thing I don't like is living so far away from my family...

Looking back, I feel that I should have moved out when I was in my 20s. My parents would have backed off a lot sooner and I wouldn't have had that breakdown in the Spring of 1998.

I turned 30 just a month ago, so I figured I would answer.

I live alone, in my own apartment, and have done so since I was 22, except for two brief periods (several months) of unemployment, when I had to move back in with my parents for financial reasons. I want to live on my own, although if I were ever in a relationship, I would consider living with my boyfriend. I have no interest in roommates.

Regarding mold, when I first lived on my own I used to leave dirty dishes in the sink until they grew strata of mold, but as I've gotten older I've gotten better at maintaining at least basic levels of cleanliness. I shower every day, and dishes don't stay in the sink longer than 12 hours or so at most. Pretty much never vacuum or clean my bathroom though. Need to work on that. It doesn't help that mess doesn't really bother me (and I don't tend to notice it), because I have less incentive to clean.

back in 07 I lived on my own after I left a "group house" because I thought their services were a true waste of tax payer services if anybody has seen the opening to one flew over the cuckoo's nest that's pretty much how it was. Very unstructured and geared towards people whom were MR/or borderline MR or just tossed around the system regardless of what their condition(s) I don't believe they even treated anybody with Autism or Aspergers but I was told they could help me because I was dealing with a sudden death of a family member on top of my own issues (I was 26 at the time and just starting to figure out whom I was personally)

So I played their game until I got fed up with it and giving the fact they stuck me in a cockroach infested apt and not to mention one of the "house mates" had a tendency to walk around *naked* and the other one would actually talk with the cockroachs "I said phuck this I'm better then this" and left...

I ended up renting a room for 500/mo which was nicer later got a pt time at a restaurant which later became a full time job (I didn't do too good but I had co-workers whom knew I needed the extra help so they helped when they could) I enjoyed being by my self so to speak for me that was perhaps the most therapeutic then any type of "community integration" services that were being offered by the state at the time.

Now I'm living with a family member because his health isn't all that good....but yea I've been on my own for a while.

I'm almost 23 and live alone. "What brought me to this state" is that I'm an adult and i'm single, so living alone is the natural state? I moved out of my parents house when I was 20 years old (also for six months when I was 16, but that was a TERRIBLE idea and ended horribly).
I( think this whole thing is incredibly important, because I know what it did for my development. I was never independent at all when living with my parents (they are great and very supportive btw) and moving out and VERY far away from my family, was the best thing I ever did. I strongly recommend it. I "jumped in the deep end" which forced me to learn, develop and mature - it was very very hard but I learned what I can and can't do, the tools to function socially and how to be independent, through trial and error. (Mostly error, haha). If I had never moved out or if I had lived very near my family with easy and close access to all their help and support - I wouldn't be the person I am today. I would be far, far less high functioning.

About what the ideal situation would be...I have lived with a roommate, and in a dorm (worst case scenario for me, does not work at all since I have learned I don't function well as part of a larger and loosely knitted group of people), and have had two apartments of my own.
Living with a roommate was fun and I wouldn't mind doing that again but it only works if it's with the right person, so its more of a risk than living alone. Overall i think i prefer living alone and its ideal. Of course I will eventually live with a boyfriend, but that's for a different and later time in my life.

I'm 30 and have always lived alone.