dragonsden wrote:
Another important note is that when there is a conflict because someone is fighting my rigid patterns, my immediate thought is to impose consequences on that person so he will know not to fight my will. I sometimes attempt to impose these consequences, whether they be verbal reprimand, physical actions, or some other form of retribution, knowing that it will be not be perceived well among peers and supervisors. But my sense of justice makes me not care about what will happen to me if I lash out.
And when I have been able to hold back from my usual patterns of intense anger against those who defy me and my ideas about how things should be done, I become unhappy with that environment and then eventually regress sooner or later. I think this is in part because sometimes the more I give, the more people think they can get away with.
In any case, this is a problem that needs to be fixed if I want to join the group I mentioned.
Suggestions?
honestly, you sound like a bully.
but i suppose the question that matters is: are you here asking for advice because you want to stop bullying people and learn to be more considerate and therefore functional and co-operative in a group setting, or do you want to learn how to bully people more effectively to get what you want so you can dominate any group you participate in? only you can answer that question for yourself.
if your answer is the latter, then this is probably not the place to be asking for advice. people on the spectrum tend not to be particularly effective bullies, so we likely won't have much to offer you in the way of suggestions.
13 Jul 2014, 7:59 pm
