At what point, if any, do you bring your child into his own IEP meeting?
My son is 13, going into 7th grade. He's had Speech IEPs since age 3, and full IEPs since 3rd grade, but he's never personally participated. He functions well in several areas - he's verbal, he can get his point across, he can make a decision (and believe me, it's taken some work to get there). He is able to work directly with his pediatrician to determine if his ADHD med is at the right level, or to decide how he wanted the wart on his leg removed. Shouldn't he have a say in his education plan? Or at least be informed first hand what the goals are, and how he and his teachers are going to help him achieve them.
All this came from a post on an autism forum on Facebook, about teaching your child to advocate for himself so that he can do that when he's an adult. And it dawned on me that maybe I'm not doing that. Because it's always been me meeting with the teachers and IEP specialists. I think that was appropriate for his younger years, but he's older now. I think he should be included. I mean, it's not like I'm going to be consulted once he's in college, or in the workforce. And I do see him doing those things.
And I ask because in particular, for this year's IEP meeting, we finally know for sure he has autism. So there may be things we do differently. Am I too far off base with wanting to bring him in at this point?