Any exp. with foreign wife from poor country?

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Nordmann
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30 Jul 2014, 5:28 pm

Hi, I was wondering if any men here have experiences with finding a wife. From Philippines, Latin America, Ukraine, Thailand etc.

Did it work out or did you end up miserable?


I am not looking for love, rather a mostly sympathetic half pretty girl to f**k and who for the most part can be trusted. And it would be great if she was a good cook of course :D

I am thinking a Latina with no English would be great, as it would mean she would be more isolated where I live and she would not that easily get to know other men that she could leave me for.



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30 Jul 2014, 5:48 pm

There are a number of men in this area, several whom I know well, who have gotten "mail-order-brides" from Eastern Europe (apparently it was kind of a fad around here back in the 1980s), mostly Ukraine and Russia.

I only know of one whose "wife" didn't divorce him as soon as she qualified for citizenship, and all of them report that the experience cost them a fortune - not just to obtain the bride, but also when the marriage ended.

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30 Jul 2014, 5:58 pm

You are not ready for a relationship, as you are not looking for someone to love, but instead are looking for someone to control,--what amounts to a sex and housework slave. This will likely get you in a lot of trouble if you pursue it, as that's illegal, and for good reason. Be honest,--would you want to be isolated from your family and country, and dependent on the whims of another person for a place to live, food, etc.? Any woman who finds herself in such a perverted relationship will quickly want out, and if you try to stop her from leaving, you could end up in jail. So do yourself and women a favor, and look for a real relationship with someone from your own area.

There are no guarantees in life, so there is no way to guarantee that any relationship will work out. However, any relationship where one or both parties are unhappy is doomed to fail, and a relationship where one of the persons is basically a slave, is an unhappy one.

You will improve your chances of a good relationship by improving your quality of character. As long as you want to over-control any potential partner, you are sadly lacking in quality of character. You need to learn to treat people with respect, compassion, and friendship, before you can expect to receive the same from others. Until you do, you will have trouble finding a partner, because women want, need and have a right to be treated with the same respect that you want for yourself.



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30 Jul 2014, 6:16 pm

I've heard horrible stories, they tend to just want the citizenship and then they ditch you.



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30 Jul 2014, 6:46 pm

Mail order brides sound like a disaster waiting to happen



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30 Jul 2014, 7:16 pm

I prefer domestics.



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30 Jul 2014, 7:19 pm

TheGoggles wrote:
I prefer domestics.

Yes, it's more fun when they put up a fight.
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30 Jul 2014, 7:23 pm

I believe you'll have a more rewarding relationship with a REALDOLL.

Cheaper than importing a live one that will ditch you as soon as she has her greencard...
Cheaper... than her documents and airplane ticket...
Cheaper...than feeding and clothing her for a few years.

Best of all... RealDolls never say no. :roll:



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30 Jul 2014, 7:46 pm

Is this a joke and I don't get it ? It is pure description of domestic violence, violence against women and abuse!



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30 Jul 2014, 7:53 pm

vanille wrote:
Is this a joke and I don't get it ? It is pure description of domestic violence, violence against women and abuse!


I agree.

What the OP is suggesting is completely repellent and nothing less than slavery. He's basically proposing to buy another human being to use as he wishes.



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30 Jul 2014, 9:57 pm

The OP didn't say anything about intending to subject his chosen bride to slavery, control, domestic abuse or violence. People are making accusations that are based on assumptions, rather than the facts stated by the OP. He is not talking about "buying" someone. He is talking about an arranged marriage of convenience. Mail order brides are not victims of human trafficking. They sign up to marriage agencies of their own free will.

All he has said is that he wants a woman to marry and have sex with, who is pretty and a good cook. He also said he would prefer it if she didn't speak much English, and he said that he was "not looking for love."

He sounds like a rather shallow individual, and his post made me feel rather disgusted and feel sorry for him, but nothing he has said indicates in any way that he wants a female slave, nor that he intends to beat her up or abuse her.

OP: if you're planning on getting a Latina wife who doesn't speak any English, hopefully you speak some Spanish. Otherwise, how are the two of you going to communicate?

Also, why are you "not looking for love?"



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30 Jul 2014, 10:15 pm

Quite a few people disagree with you on the "not trafficking" angle.

http://www.gpo.gov/fdsys/pkg/CHRG-108sh ... g96804.pdf



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30 Jul 2014, 10:23 pm

For some reason the idea of getting a Russian or Ukrainian mail-order bride kind of appeals to me, which is weird because I don't ever actually want to get married. It's just this sexist fantasy I have about having an attractive foreign woman who will cook and clean for me.

Wow, I feel terrible just saying that. Why am I such a pig?



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30 Jul 2014, 11:23 pm

I have considered it as a option if i was to win the lottery, though I don't want it for what the op wants. as that is the case it wouldn't work out unless we dated and talk for months. I don't know if I would trust her though as others have mentioned.

the topic is always suggested to me and others when inquiring about frustrating supificial women are. People are like eastern European and Russian women are nicer try them. I want a companion. I don't need or want a woman to cook or clean for me.



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30 Jul 2014, 11:42 pm

mr_bigmouth_502 wrote:
For some reason the idea of getting a Russian or Ukrainian mail-order bride kind of appeals to me, which is weird because I don't ever actually want to get married. It's just this sexist fantasy I have about having an attractive foreign woman who will cook and clean for me.

Wow, I feel terrible just saying that. Why am I such a pig?


Hey, I had a longstanding fantasy about some nice Vassar girl of the 50s who'd type my manuscripts and take care of everything and just be sweet and unobtrusively sophisticated as hell. You know, the personification of Ambush. (It's an old perfume.) Then I realized she'd probably be annoyed that I don't really want sex with girls, and that she'd probably talk a lot, and besides, what kind of crap move is it to enslave someone like that.

Then I hired a cleaning lady and it was All Better. No kidding. Especially since I not only paid her, but introduced her to the world of NSF grad fellowships. (College student.) Unfortunately she got serious about her lab work after that, so I'll have to find someone else. Still. Cleaning ladies. Amazing people. Someday I may even hire a kid to take care of the gardens, wowie.

Oh. Wait, that's different, isn't it. I really just had a fantasy about a clean house, kid picked up from school, etc.